One thing I've learned over the years is there is a big difference between making a decision based on fact and logic (like your hubby is genuinely trying to do) and making it based on an emotional gut reaction (that your hubby is also probably trying to do at the same time). Even if you find the type of facts you hope to, it may not make it easier for him. It is very difficult to lay aside an emotional reaction to something and we often don't realize this. The logical side of our mind is pounding out the facts but the emotional side is not listening. I can appreciate his discomfort...fear of snakes is so common and often very deep. He's trying and that's the main thing. It sounds like you are really working on this so I hope it comes out OK. What about "borrowing" a nice tame bp for a visit of a couple of weeks so he can watch all the aspects of one for a while without committing?

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