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DexterPython
at Fri Jan 30 17:59:40 2004 [ Email Message ] [ Show All Posts by DexterPython ]
If you can't take cold, hard, honesty...don't ask for help. I'm not getting my "feathers ruffled", I'm trying to be honest with you. The problem is 100% your husband's fear, if that's passing judgement, then so be it. He has consented to a Corn Snake, which is far more likely to bite your child than a Ball Python is. This is not a blanket statement. This is not an emotional statement. This is a fact of snakes. I've been bitten several times by Corn's and very few times from Balls. Why? Because Corns are more outgoing that Balls and they don't hide when confronted...they bite.
Let's compare apples with apples, shall we? The deaths cause by a 13 foot snake do not relate, in any way, shape or form to an "attack" by a Ball. You might aswell give him the stats on hot snakes while you're at it. They'll be just as relevant.
Mutual respect. This is what you're speaking of. After eight years in my relationship, I'm pretty sure I know exactly what you're talking about. Why don't you respect the fact that he doesn't want the Ball in the house at all and just be happy with the Corn? That's the flip side of it. If you're going to be snappy, at least look at both sides of an argument first. If my woman said she didn't want something in the house that she was terribly afraid of, or didn't want another one, I'd respect that and I wouldn't even push the issue. And on the flip side, she doesn't exactly like the fact that I want a Blood Python and a Red Tail, but she's taken the time to educate herself on these snakes. "Speaking his language" is going to cause you more greif than good, because all of your stats are going to come from large and/or aggressive snakes. To put it into a linguistic metophor, you think you're asking "where the bathroom is" in Spanish, but in reality you're saying "I've just gone all over myself". Counter productive.
I'm sorry I tried to be completely honest with you. I won't bother with further replies.
I appreciate your time.
However, there are plenty of documented cases of large constrictors killing humans that they couldn't possibly eat. Now, before your feathers get ruffled, I KNOW I'm not talking about giant snakes, but a bp. But to drop a blanket statement like that (most especially an inaccurate one) is exactly what I'm trying to avoid.
I agree that it seems my husband is being unreasonable. I've certainly had similar thoughts during our conversations. However, you have to remember that he HAS already consented to one snake in the house despite his reservations because of his respect for me and my interests. And he IS considering consenting to a bp as well. He is doing his best to accomodate my desires and get past his own reservations. Now it is up to me to help ease his misgivings. The best way to do so is by "speaking his language." And that is by using as many facts as I can dig up...not by using blanket statements and emotional arguments.
Some of ya'll seem to demand that HE respect me. And you seem to think that means giving in to whatever I want without considering how he feels about it. That is nonsense.
"He'll come around..." Yes...eventually he will. I truly hope that someday he'll be a partner in these endevours, rather than a reluctantly "supportive" spouse. But I won't ever get there by badgering him to see things my way.
I've asked for help finding information...not for people to pass judgement on my husband.
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- Need Help With a Research Project - JLC, Fri Jan 30 08:23:39 2004
- Tell him to contact Eglan Air Force Base if he's so worried about it. - wideglide, Fri Jan 30 08:38:08 2004
- RE: Need Help With a Research Project - Carlton, Fri Jan 30 11:44:49 2004
- RE: Need Help With a Research Project - Sonya, Fri Jan 30 12:07:07 2004
- To Clarify - JLC, Fri Jan 30 15:55:58 2004
- Oh geez - DexterPython, Fri Jan 30 16:20:27 2004
- RE: Oh geez - JLC, Fri Jan 30 16:40:52 2004
- RE: Oh geez - Carlton, Fri Jan 30 17:10:10 2004
- RE: Oh geez - Sonya, Fri Jan 30 17:11:58 2004
 RE: Oh geez - DexterPython, Fri Jan 30 17:59:40 2004
- Your answer is quite simple. - jfmoore, Fri Jan 30 18:27:38 2004
- Alright... - JLC, Fri Jan 30 23:17:13 2004
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