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huricanmj
at Wed Mar 9 10:16:13 2005 [ Email Message ] [ Show All Posts by huricanmj ]
Jake,
Wow, you have another burm? wow... I am in shock. I have tried to be a support for you in earlier posts, but alas, it seems I have been mistaken. We have tried to give you solid information in this forum and it seems that you are demonstrating typical adolescent behavior by ignoring solid advice in lieu of what you WANT to do. Since that appears to be the case, I would ask you that you NO LONGER POST TO THIS FORUM, since you are obviousily wasting all of our time here. It makes NO sense to me that you would attempt to engage us for advice here and then ignore what we tell you and do whatever you had already planned to do in the first place.
You tend to ask the same questions, OVER and OVER, again, wasting our time - egging on those who continually "bite" at your insipid remarks to get them to engage with you in a worthless conversation about your maturity and ability to care for a snake. I for one am tired of this game and it is painfully clear that talking to you is a waste of valuable time. I now turn my remarks to the rest of the forum.....
Dear Burmese Python Forum Readers...
I come to you now to discuss my concerns about how we are enabeling Jake to continue his irritating behaviors. I approach this professionally as a mental health therapist specializing in treating teenagers. Here is a little background on adolescents: Most teens are quite insecure about themselves and tend to seek attention where they can find it. In the adolescent mind, any attention, even negative attention is better than no attention at all. Many teens repeat negative and irritating behaviors because they get the desired result - attention. Luckily, most grow out of this phase as adults and end up like us. Some do not grow out of this phase and tend to experience difficulty maintaining solid relationships, continually testing their partners with their behaviors and driving people away.
I see this type of behavior in the posting from Jake. Any mature individual would accept information and run with it, unless information is not their goal. It is clear to me that what we are dealing with is a lonely kid who is seeking attention. He demonstrates this by continually attempting to engage members of this forum in personal attacks and side conversations. He is good at what he does, knowing how to push buttons in us to get his needed attention. It is time that we face the facts.
We must accept the fact that we have no control over this kid. He has proven to us that he will not listen, nor is he interested in getting good advice. He will do whatever he has in mind, regardless of what we tell him. LET IT GO. The more we validate his attention seeking behaviors, the more he will do it. If we ignore him, he will eventually stop posting here. Everytime we become outraged at his lame requests and ideas, and send a fleet of cautionary posts, he wins and gets his attention - further reinforcing his behavior and the result is we lose more of our hair from pulling it out. I am tired of this game and that is why I am posting this information to you all. If you choose to continue to fight a losing battle, it is your freedom to do so. I just wanted to give you some insight into what I see going on. Just let it go and he will stop. remember, nothing we say will change his mind. He has proven that to us over and over. Let it go.
Good luck to you all,
-Marco.
PS - Jake, if you are still reading this, and you are actually looking for information, look in the archives - great info lies therein - and it won't bug others by looking there.
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Shock and Awe (quite long, sorry about that) - huricanmj, Wed Mar 9 10:16:13 2005