I wouldn't even force handle him, just stick your hand hear him and remain still and see if he approaches and invistigates. He may not do it the first time,the next, or following 20 times, but eventually a monitors curiousity will get the better of him and he will see what this strange looking flower is in his domain. When you allow them to come to you and not vice versa, they grow to know you are not a threat and in return can interact with them much better.
With my first monitor, a Sav, i did exactly what you did my friend and everytime I stuck my hand near the monitor he hissed and tailwhipped. I never let him get used to me on his terms. Now with my Juvi WhiteThroat, I have not force handled him at all and have allowed him to sniff my hand and he now will crawl up on my hand and up my arm allowing me to lift him out and let him know I'm not a threat. I've had him since Nov 2 and the results have been very rewarding.
Someone on here many moons ago gave a great example using a wild Squrriel. You don't go and grab a wild squirrel expecting it to tame down. If you grab it, it will fight and try to bite the crap outta you. Now if you allow it to come to you on it's own terms, it will get more curious to you and approach closer and closer til eventually it makes contact with you. Over time, it may even allow you to touch it back.
Just be patient with it and remind yourself that your many times it's size and reaching in to grab and pick it up only reinforces it's fear of you. Savs by nature are elusive and avoid humans anyways so it will take time.
-----
___
signature file edited 5/3/06; contact an admin