I understand how you feel. You will find a milksnake if you
don't give up. They are more common than you think, but they spend most of their time under ground. When, and where you look
makes all the difference. Spend time flipping rocks, plywood, etc. when the temp. is between 75-85 degrees. This will be early in the day. Overcast days are very good, because the snakes may remain under the debris for extended periods of time without overheating. After heavy rain fall is without a doubt my favorite time to look. Find debris that offers a dry retreat, and you will have better odds of finding your snake. Edges of fields, powerlines, and railroad beds are all great places to look. Be patient, and enjoy your quest. Keep in mind that Bees, and Wasps can pose a real danger to any herper with allergies. Make sure you are prepared for them to show up under that perfect rock, or piece of plywood. Good luck, and be safe.