I don't post too often, so I'll take a crack at answering all your questions (even though your questions have been answered already by others...). Sorry, no pictures, but you shouldn't need any, it's fairly simple.
For heat, you need a UTH, no light. You probably need something to control the heat, too--a dimmer or thermostat. You MUST have thermometers on both ends of the enclosure (warm end, cool end). A digital indoor/outdoor one works well. Your high side should not be over 85 tops. The cool side can be about 75. Higher temps will stress the snake.
Substrate: ditch the calci-sand. I suggest using aspen, which you can get at Wal-Mart, and is great for burrowing. If you are poking and trying to feed the snake every day, the poor thing is stressed out of its mind and needs to get away from you. Remember, a snake is not a dog, and a little snake sees you as a big predator.
I would not touch the snake at all for the time being. Forget about the feeding container for now. Wait a few days, then put a pinky on a paper towel near one of the hides and leave it overnight. Do not, I repeat, do not, touch the snake, do not bother the snake, do not handle the snake. I am guessing from your numerous posts that you are overly anxious about the snake not eating, and spending way too much time hovering over it trying to get it to eat.
Adjust your temps, change the substrate, and leave the snake alone. Then let us know when it eats, because it will. If you don't want to follow any of the suggestions made here, then things will most likely not improve, and you will eventually lose your snake. The people here have a great deal of experience, and have already given you good advice, which I have merely repeated here--I suggest you follow it.
Good luck--
Jeannie