Ok, first off: Why?
Why do you WANT to handle this animal? Just for shiites and giggles? To show your friends? Why?
He dosnt like it. He likely never will like it (like, 98.7% likely).
If you want to interact with him, theres alot better ways than forcing what YOU want onto the animal(ie, being a much larger creature, grabbing your animal or attempting to force handle it, thats forcing yourself on the animal). Let the ANIMAL decide how to interact with you, rather than forcing something on it that it dosnt want. Just go about your normal day- clean cage, offer food, watch tv, etc.
Dont make the animal something you sit and stare at- nobody likes to be stared at. In monitor language, that can easily be mistaken for a challenge or threat. Over time, youll work out how best to go about approaching your animal, if it dosnt approach you first- these things are very clever lil buggers, dont let em fool ya. They are as curious about you as you are of them, and if you can get to a point where you both have enough trust/confidence, 'friendly' interaction WILL occur. Cruiosity will drive them to check you out over time, and if they find no threat or challenge from you, then to put it bluntly "You can be friends!" lol
As those before me said, this isnt a snake. This animal is much more aware of its surroundings than a snake is, and its memory is much better as well.
You muck up early trying to force the animal to be "handleable", you may never get another chance to get that trust back. And if you do, it could take weeks/months/years to do it.
My suggestion, after keeping an african monitor for 2 years?
Leave him alone. Let him do his thing, you do yours. Hes still young likely, and needs time to adjust to this crazy world in which he lives. Once hes secure in himself, he will start checking you and his surroundings out. If that goes well, a certain level of trust will be created and your interaction can go on from there.
The BEST kind of 'tame' monitor is the one that got that way of its own accord- a just genuinely curious, intelligent animal thats got confidence in itself and trust in its keepers.