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Hey everyone, I'm just going to get right to it.

To make a long story short I asked my mom if I could get a snake and she said "I just don't want one". Umm, I just wanted to ask what that means?

She isn't afraid of snakes
it's not the fact that it's a reptile because I care for a leopard gecko already,
it's not the money because I said I'd pay for it
it's not the space because I've told her how little space they take up and I have a ton of space in my room
it's not that she thinks I wont take care of it because she knows I take excellent care of my leopard gecko and have for years.

After all of that is there anything left? Is she being irrational? Is there anything I can do? I have already typed out at least 10 pages of info on corn snakes as well as about 7 pages of pictures trying to teach her a little about them. What should I do? What can I do? I'm pretty desperate because I don't understand her logic here... If anyone has any input please post it. Thanks in advance for any posts.

Maybe she wants two! Or more! How nice.
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sue

Move out. Youre 35 now, its time for your own place anyways.
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Aspire to inspire before you expire.

Are you seriously 35 and living with your mom?
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Jason

No I'm not.

I don't know what that guy was talking about but I'm in my teens. I don't understand how this is relevant to my question anyway but whatever.

If your living with your mom and you cant move out then your not getting a snake.
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Jason

It means your mom does not want one, and can not come up with a good reason you will accept.

If she goes tot the store with you, see if you can handle a baby creamcicle or something "pretty" and calm and small.

Let her see it, just say you are looking at different types. See if she approaches it as she might like its looks. DON'T do the sales pitch on the first day. If she comments on how nice, or that's ones not bad looking, just say, and they come in so many types, many so much nicer. No matter what you are holding.

This is your time to shine as a used car salesman.

Idea is to work in phases. It would also help to have a good sales person.

Good luck.
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Thanks for reading.
Big Tom

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Luckily my parents were VERY cool with me owning snakes. I've owned snakes since the age of about seven, and am 47 now, so snakes weren't a big issue at all,.....however, she did use the excuse..."because I said so!" quite often, and put an immediate hault to many things as a kid!...LOL Couldn't really argue with her much after she said that, or back in those days she'd slap the crap out of me!..LOL.......no "time-outs" back then!

~Doug

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"Better to be silent and thought a fool, than to open mouth and remove any doubt!"

Does she mean she just doesn't want you to have one

or

Does she mean that you don't want ONLY one?

Just curious because makes a difference on how to interpret her thinking and a solution for you, if one exists.

Sean.
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1.1 BRB
1.1 Triple Het TPRS's
1.1 Amel Bloodred Corns
0.1 Abbott Okeetee Corn
0.1 Blizzard Bloodred Corn
1.1 Thayeri Kingsnakes
0.1 Reeve's Turtle
0.2 Amstaff's
1.0 Pudytat

1 it's mom
2 Shes a woman

Who really knows? lol

wait til your married it's worse!
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Thanks for reading.
Big Tom

www.HerpZillA.com
www.HerpHelp.com

Well thanks for all of your posts everyone. I understand that she can just not want a snake in the house but I suppose I don't understand why... Should I really just drop it until I'm out on my own? I do know that it is just a snake but reptiles have always been a great passion of mine and I think housing a snake is a great way to learn more about them. If I shouldn't wait, is there any way that I can help change her mind? Last time I took her to a pet store and showed her some corn snakes she just got irritated and told me to drop it... Please post any ideas, and thanks in advance if you do.

Hi.

I had a very similar situation to yours this past summer. I had 2 leopard geckos, each for 5 years hich my mom quite liked. but she immediately shut me down any time I tried to bring up a snake. Now I do live on my own, but she didn't even want the snake in the house. I explained to her that my snake would live in my room, be in its tank, she wouldn't have to see it or interact with it in any capaity if she didn't want to.

Eventually, she agreed, and I got my snake in September. Now that I'm home I keep it out of her way. I find the best course of action is to to as much research and try and be as good as possible. Bringing up a snake every day probably isn't going to help the issue. Try and help around the house, do as much research as possible, and basically try and be a model kid.

Eventually, try and sit down with her and ask for a real answer about the reason she doesn't want a snake. If you show that you are mature and responsible, then she should be able to give you a mature and responsible response. If all else fails, wait until you move out.

Do you know someone who has a snake? Maybe see if you can borrow it for a weekend so your mom can actually see that having one isn't that big a deal.

My little boy just turned 5 months yesterday, and I can tell you it is totally worth the long and painful process of trying to et one. Now I'm currently working on her about #2....