First, most responses from you question, addressed you as a beginer, the reason was because of the type of question you asked.
As most folks that ask the wrong question, you do not want to be thought of as a beginer. Which I find odd. If your a beginer, then please own up to it. Theres nothing wrong with being a beginer. Unless you deny it and want to act like an expert, when your not. That is bad and this forum is full of those folks.
Next, taming an animal any animal, is not about handling, Which is why I think of you as a beginer. Every experienced to advanced animal keeper understands taming is "ALL ABOUT THE KEEPER" and very rarely about the animal. Sure, there is an exceptional individual animal that tames easily or not at all, no matter what you do. But the vast majority of wild animals, fit neatly into and respond to the ABILITIES of their keeper. That includes the ability to keep them successfully and the ability to allow the animal to feel secure(to tame)
Not wanting to be a sexist, but I have this ability to touch animals and feel what they are feeling. This "GIFT" is not all that common with men(I be one) and is much more common with women. I do not believe it has anything to do with what gender we are. I believe its more about some folks believing in words over feelings(to touch). So what you need to understand is, ITS ALL ABOUT YOUR TOUCH. As in, some have the touch, some don't, your task is to understand that.
If you touch a monitor and that scares the crap out of it. You must learn to NOT LET THAT OCCUR. Remember, most animals do not rely on WORDS, they only rely on feelings(non-verbal comunication) If your monitor bites you and craps and pees on you. Its not simply being mean or being a monitor. Its YELLING at you to STOP SCARING the pee water out of it. (simple basic comunication) Learn your monitor, not rely on it learning you(how egotistical)
Your monitor does not seek you out, chase you down and bite you. YOU ARE ATTACKING IT. WHAT THE HECK DO YOU EXPECT it to do????????
The point I am trying to make is very simple. YOUR question was about handling(like so many zillion other newbies) when handling means absolutely NOTHING.(bad question)
Education is often times thought to be based on answers. But that is also wrong or at least very limiting. Education is based on asking better questions, then recieving a better answer, and then asking an even better question, etc. That is called step by step learning. Learning is not getting an answer to your first question. HOW FRIGGIN STUPID IS THAT?(no offense, but it is friggin stupid) There is no answer to your first question. It cold be, handle it ten times a year, a month, a week, a day, or never. Or start now, or start tomorrow, or start next decade.
The REAL ANSWER is, you must learn how to tell what your monitor is feeling, then you must learn to deal with that accordingly. You must learn how to handle your monitor, before you handle it. Are you starting to get it?
And don't give me that old, I am an expert with, this or that. That simply does not fly with monitors. hahahahahahahaha those folks breeze thru here all the time. Monitors like some of us keepers are an emotional lot. And like many of us, HAVE TEMPERS. And like you have done with your monitor, you can pee them totally off and have them go balistic on you. Yes, monitors have tempers. Yours is YELLING AT YOU.
So heres the deal, learn to stay on your montiors good side and all is well. It really is all that simple. If you do that, you can form a bond and become partners with your monitor. If your male, and its female, oh my. Or visa versa. Are you getting any of this??????? Its not about handling, it never was, that was a BAD question. Start over. Cheers
