"Why doesnt the heat stay even across the whole 4ft of flex?"
I'm not really sure exactly why but i've noticed it's similar with the flexwatt I'm using. I have limited experience with flexwatt so I'm sure someone else can better help you here. i have found that using small peices of flexwatt, I'm using 6 peices of about 1 foot each, seemed to give me more stable temps.
"How do I get these temps stable when my house temps fluxuate? "
It's not easy. Chris made a great point about insulating the rack, this will stabilize the temps. Thermal mass will help also. Try placng the probe inside an empty box, on the same size heat tape set up exactly the way the other ones are. This will allow the heat tape to run hot enough to heat the inside of the box rather than just reading the temp of the heat tape itself. It makes the hot spot inside the cage at the temp you want, this is what the snake cares about.
"At least in a large cage, if the basking gets too hot they have plenty of room to move away and a greater temp gradient.I hate these bins."
This is a great point. I haven't really found a way to heat larger snakes or lizards enough with heat tape. It seems way easier to me using light bulbs or ceramic heat emmiters. Big cages are way easier to maintain than smaller cages at least in my opinion. You can make mistakes and it doesn't hurt the animal. Like you said they can just move away from the heat. I have the heat tape on my cornsnakes and it works great. I only have one boa and he is heated with light bulbs.
Hope this helps a little
Good luck.