well first you shouldnt handle him at all right now all your doing is stressing him out, if you need to change the water or spot clean do it while he is sleeping or hideing so he cant see you, also post a pic of your setup, give him tons of different hides, give him dark tight spaces to hide in, give him plenty of dirt to make a burrow at least 10 inches deep, dont try to hold him at all, you need to build trust with him, these things take time and patience. he will come around to you if you dont try to molest him everyday!!! l0l just leave him alne for a few weeks.
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