Sorry, a few misunderstandings.
But that's okay. I always think it's better to clear them up BEFORE going blitzo and assuming the worst.
First, she had her "pre-lay" shed about a week ago, was bred on April 15th. She ate voraciously to begin with after being bred, but sort of slacked off a few weeks before she went blue. I offered her a full grown mouse about a week ago, right after she shed (the mouse bit me, I whacked him, I hate to waste a mouse and all the other snakes had eaten, so I offered it to her, she ate). Day before yesterday I offered her three hoppers that had not yet been weaned. (but I was feeding off the colony so mommy and daddy had already been made into a meal for other snakes). She didn't want them and didn't even look at them as if they were food. So of course I'm hoping that she's gravid. I only mentioned the amount she's eaten BEFORE the pre-lay shed as an explanation of why I didn't think she was OBESE. 
As to handling a gravid snake. I do agree with you, and I was NOT treating her as a toy. For some reason, ever since she became gravid (?) she seems to want to be held. (anthropomorphosizing, I know)... whenever I go into the room where she is (to check for eggs, make sure her tiny water dish has water, etc) she is curious. If I open the cage to check more carefully for eggs she'll crawl right out of the cage and up into my hair. Seems to love it there. She was up and wrapped securely (could not fall without making a LOT of movement first) around my hair before I could even stop her. It was her choice of where to hang out whilst I checked her cage. Hubby saw how she was hanging out on my hair and decided to snap a few pictures. A close up of one of those yielded the "scale shot".
I appreciate your concern. I do not want to do anything to jeapordize HER primarily, nor her eggs. I'm still fairly new to snakes (little less than two years), and I'm sure I do make mistakes from time to time. Hanging out here in the Kingsnake forum has taught me a great deal, and I continue to learn from all the people here.
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~Sasheena
and the kids: Tantilla, Tantillas, Lightning, Kinkee, Maple, Castle, Bishop, Queenie, Jester, Pandora, Phantom, Aphrodite, Athena, Hermes, and Lady