A couple things. First off, IMO, there is no need to remove an animal from it's enclosure for feeding, unless its substrate and impaction you're worried about. Placing news print over it, and feeding on that, will fix that problem though. I believe it would be less stressful on the animal if you didn't have to remove it and replace it each feeding, possibly with tongs as you mentioned.
You can't get an animal used to handling, without ACTUALLY handling it. Hooks and tongs do not accomplish this for you. If you need to use those tools, then settle on the fact you're going to have a "wild" animal. IMO, they are ALL wild anyway, not "tame" as some people call them, but rather "accepting" of our interactions. Some not so much as others though.
Gloves are fine as a training aid, but they shouldn't be so thick as to limit your feeling of the reptile. If you use a softer glove, like a driving glove, then when you eventually take the glove off, the sensations the snake feels aren't that different. Handle a couple times a week, 10 min or so to start, then increase the time gradually. It's worked for me with several angry rescues.
Like I said though, all snakes are wild, and some just don't interact well. I have a 6 ft Honduran female that will give you a facial from the end of a hook if you aren't careful. Wouldn't have her any other way either. Be accepting to the idea that yours may just turn out the same way.
Good luck!
>>I do not feed him in the cage he lives in i take him out and put him in a plastic tub. I feel you on the gloves he has tagged me a few times it is not fun. My issue is i have to handle him with a hook or if he is really angry my tongs and i really like to handle my snakes and i am afraid that if i cannot handle him soon i may have to sell him and i don't want to do that. Thanks for the help any other advice i can get would be greatly appreciated
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