i agree. babies can instinctivly be pretty nervous about being handled. as much as possible, try to avoid coming at her from directly overhead. other than that, id jsut give her a few more days to get used to your prescence, then try to hold her for a little bit every day. my little girl seems to have calmed down a bit since i got Kaipo, who loooooooves attention. i think she's learning i really dont want to eat her 
as for the appetite, it could be the lack of uvb. i believe the uvb helps stimulate appetite. but nothing id get too worried about at this point. if it continues, or if she develops diarrhea or any other symptoms, then there might be a problem. but she's probably still just highly stressed from having a new home
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1.0.0 ball python (mr snake),0.0.1 albino florida kingsnake (CK),1.0.0 leopard gecko (sebastian),0.1.0 colombian rainbow boa (luce),1.1.0 bearded dragon (kaipo and dulce), 1.1.0 colombian redtailed boas (adam and eve)