If the petstores and shows both PROBED the animals, then that is the most reliable method. I would go with the folks at the show if they were good reliable vendors/corn breeders. In general, males tales are much longer and taper much more gradually past the cloacal opening (scale where the poop comes out) to the tip of the tale. Females tails taper much quicker to the tip and not as broad. Also, if male, you can look at the tail from the side. With ADULT male corns, you can sometimes see how the tail bulges to accomodate the hemipenes after the cloacal opening towards the tip of the tail. Long thick tail after poop scale equal male, short stubby tail after poop scale equal female.