>>I over sized her, shes more about 2-2.5 feet long.
>>She lives in a 75G tank. The tank has aspen bedding,
>>a hide box that I made out of wood, a log, a rock and
>>large water bowl. the highest part of the cage is 95
>>degrees, on top of her hide box. Ground level hot spot
>>is around 88 degrees. On the opposite side of the tank
>>the low temp is 76 degrees.
I see several issues with your husbandry that should be improved. The monitor should have access to a basking spot in excess of 120 to 130 degrees F, over an area about the size of the monitor's body. 80 degrees F is a good temperature for the cool side of the enclosure.
Aspen is inadequate for a substrate. Monitors are diggers, and use burrows for not just shelter but controlling water loss and heat retention. The best substrate is a good dirt that will hold a burrow. Keep it slightly moist so the burrow has high humidity.
Keeping a monitor with low humidity and inadequate temperatures slowly kills it. Chronic dehydration leads to long term organ damage, particularly to the kidneys. With the conditions you describe, you can expect your lizard to have a lifespan of perhaps 3 years before its organs give out (usually the heart or kidneys, in my experience).
I go into much more detail on this page
http://panoptesv.com/HBD/tricks.html
The page is primarily dedicated to argus monitors, but the same husbandry applies to all monitor species. The Pro Exotics website also has good information on keeping monitors
http://www.proexotics.com/care_savannah.html
Good luck. I hope you can get your lizard turned around and healthy.
Luke