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Has anyone here who lives with a significant other ever felt the need to sneak a new snake into their collection so as to avoid getting gas over getting yet another snake?
"Oh, I have had that one a long time, you just don't see him much because he hides a lot..."
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Bob/Chris
Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

Nope.

Out of respect for my wife, as our house is our house together, I always let her know whenever I am thinking of getting a new snake.
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Genesis 1:1

I live alone, so I don't have this problem. However, it's a fairly common phenomenon amongst chicken addicts. It's probably the same across all animal-addiction categories, as long as the animals are small enough to be sneaky with!
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0.1 Peruvian rainbow boa (Amaru)
2.0 Brazilian rainbow boas (Arco, Olho)
1.3.1 Honduran milksnakes (Chicchan, Chanir, Chakar, Hari, Saksak)
1.0 Thayeri kingsnake (Coatl)
0.0.1 Mexican black kingsnake (Mora)
2.7 corns (Cetto, Tolosa, Uce, TBA)
1,000,000.1,000,000 other critters

My wife gave up trying to worry about how many snakes I have in my collection long ago. She has no idea whether I have 10 or 100....and doesnt care.

That's pretty much how it is in my situation here. All she knows is that there are alot!, and I certainly don't go out of my way to ever say just how many either, as she doesn't give two craps about them anyway, and would only have a negative reaction to any thing said about the numbers.

Can't complain about what she doesn't know, now can she..LOL! I brought in over thirty one day, and definitely didn't mention it at all. This undoubtedly saved me lots of aggravation!..

~Doug
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"a snake in the grass is a GOOD thing"

my website -serpentinespecialties.webs.com

We have a general rule at my house...no counting the snakes. I don't even know how many I have. Not many as a lot of the folks on this forum, but more than I want to admit to.

Once or twice but not normal. I don't like stepping around my wife...even if it' sby omission.
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We wouldn't have 6 and a half billion people if you had to be beautiful to get laid.
6.6 African House snakes
3.2 reticulated pythons
.1 corn snake
4.2 Florida Kings
1.2 speckled kings
1.2 ball pythons
0.0.1 Argentine boa

I have an agreement with my wife, I have thirty snakes regardless of how many I actually have she doesn't know and doesn’t want to know.

Are you kidding? That's half the fun!
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“Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.” Emmerson

WWW.TDSNAKES.BLOGSPOT.COM

I have not done this yet but have of late been sorely tempted! LOL! What's another little pyro, anyway. Now if it was a big old bull snake that would be a lot harder to even consider adding into the collection unnoticed.
This whole thing has more to do with money than with how many snakes I have. I hate this economic depression! I will continue to be honest with my mate on this but Oh the Temptation! There is a pyro or two I REALLY WANT! Sometimes it is hard being an adult...
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Bob/Chris
Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

If it was about the economics for us, I'd confide before I bought as well. My wife just thinks I'm nuts when it comes to the critters and she's most likely right.
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“Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.” Emmerson

WWW.TDSNAKES.BLOGSPOT.COM

"My wife just thinks I'm nuts when it comes to the critters and she's most likely right."
I think we may be nuts for being into this hobby too.

Same here, has nothing to with money. It all started with "we dont have room for any more snakes". Then i built a rack floor to ceiling and now have plenty of room. I keep all the tubs 'snake ready' so she really doesn't know which tub does and does not have snakes in it... I tell her the extras are for when the tubs need cleaning.
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Chris - TX

2.2 Splendida
1.1 Nigrita
1.1 Ruthveni
0.0.3 277 Alterna

>>Has anyone here who lives with a significant other ever felt the need to sneak a new snake into their collection so as to avoid getting gas over getting yet another snake?
>>"Oh, I have had that one a long time, you just don't see him much because he hides a lot..."
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>>Bob/Chris
>>Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

In 25yrs of marriage we know one thing...neither of us would SNEAK anything.Just a matter of trust. He can waste his money on his dvds, games and books and I have all the critters I want. Neither of us get to complain unless on another's stuff overlaps general living area. And I have a "dungeon" ...it's his gazillion manga that are taking over the house lately.
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Sonya

I'm not mean. You're just a sissy.
Happy Bunny

>>Has anyone here who lives with a significant other ever felt the need to sneak a new snake into their collection so as to avoid getting gas over getting yet another snake?
>>"Oh, I have had that one a long time, you just don't see him much because he hides a lot..."

Actually I have yet to pull this trick....LOL
Deborah...my wife....is usually the one home to receive the snakes that get mailed to me and we have a mutual agreement that she gets monetarily equal amounts of shoes, purses, jewelry or clothing....LOL

So I actually have doubled my investment in snakes....one half being for snakes and the other half presents for my wife....WE are both spoiled.......hehehehehe
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John Lassiter
Poor planning and procrastination on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part...
www.coastalbendcaptivebreeding.com

Heh! In our case it is not purses or clothes, etc, it is electronics!
We share a common interest in electronics, and can share the toys, so it works out.
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Bob/Chris
Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

My wife and I support our respective endeavors and have no need to resort to such sneakiness. One half of our basement is essentially put aside for my needs with her total approval; a closet with my clothes, a computer area, a den area where I work on herp papers and other writings, a wide screen TV so I can watch the Bears, Devils, and White Sox to my hearts delight, and a studio area for band practice and working on music. Far be it from me to pull a "sneaky" when she respects me enough to accept with my meany interests; I know plenty of othe married men who don't enjoy such a relationship with their spouses, and I'm a fortunate man indeed!

Bart Bruno

That is well expressed.
Although I tend to cringe when having to engage in a "discussion" on how to do something (would rather just go do whatever and not answer to anyone but myself), I do keep my partner in the loop even though often it devolves into a bickering. I feel my partner should have a say on anything involving the use of our mutual resources.
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Bob/Chris
Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

I thank God my wife isnt one of those people who disagrees with my hobby because they dont like or understand it!! My ex thought it was just a big waste of money and would frown upon it regardless of our financial situation. She would probably have let me buy expensive golf clubs, spend money on green fees, tennis lessons, even unnecessary cloths before letting me buy more snakes and herps. Just the way she thought about it. My current wife isnt into the herps either. However, she recognizes that its a source of enjoyment and away time, just like any hobby should be. As long as I dont go crazy and spend money I shouldnt, or let it get to the point where it inteferes with the household based on the amount of space it takes up in the house (like having racks of snakes in the dining room or kitchen LOL), then she has no worries or gripes.

My wife doesnt micro manage my expenditures on the hobby, and for the most part doesnt care. Still, its money that is used for other aspects of our life as well, so I get clearance when I get the jones to get some new critters or supplies, or tell her I need to order supplies and essentials. She also affords me the same respect when she wants to make a personal purchases. Sometimes its just not a good time for any additional expenditures and I need to be reminded the kids tuitions are due, a medical bill came in, etc. I am not about to miss a payment on a critical item because I failed to tell my wife I spent a couple of bucks on reptile stuff LOL!!!

Yup. That's my situation too. And the ground rules have always been they have to be in secure enclosure (no wandering) and address the smells. Having done what a lot of guys do, Amassing a huge collection only to downsize when it starts to look and SMELL like a zoo, I think she takes some comfort in knowing I don't want things to get out of hand either. If your in our house you wouldn't know we even have reptiles. Everything is kept in the basement neatly with the exception of keeping a new aqusition in quarantine upstairs in a discreet location for a length of time. I lucked out. I have a good one.

There's a musty odor a bit, and sometimes it smells like wood (on cleaning days when I replace substrate...cypress smell throughout the house).

The only problem is whena retic takes a dump...I clean those up ASAP but it still has a definite odor!
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We wouldn't have 6 and a half billion people if you had to be beautiful to get laid.
6.6 African House snakes
3.2 reticulated pythons
.1 corn snake
4.2 Florida Kings
1.2 speckled kings
1.2 ball pythons
0.0.1 Argentine boa

"My wife doesnt micro manage my expenditures on the hobby, and for the most part doesnt care. Still, its money that is used for other aspects of our life as well, so I get clearance when I get the jones to get some new critters or supplies, or tell her I need to order supplies and essentials."
Pretty much...right now it'd beh orrible of me to order anything extra because we just spend 2 grand fixing plumbing and we're about to fix some wiring. We have X money and Y fixed expenses...and I don't want to cut out money we really need you know?
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We wouldn't have 6 and a half billion people if you had to be beautiful to get laid.
6.6 African House snakes
3.2 reticulated pythons
.1 corn snake
4.2 Florida Kings
1.2 speckled kings
1.2 ball pythons
0.0.1 Argentine boa

RESPONSIBLE. Good for you. A hard road sometimes but good long term benefits.

>>My wife and I support our respective endeavors and have no need to resort to such sneakiness. One half of our basement is essentially put aside for my needs with her total approval; a closet with my clothes, a computer area, a den area where I work on herp papers and other writings, a wide screen TV so I can watch the Bears, Devils, and White Sox to my hearts delight, and a studio area for band practice and working on music. Far be it from me to pull a "sneaky" when she respects me enough to accept with my meany interests; I know plenty of othe married men who don't enjoy such a relationship with their spouses, and I'm a fortunate man indeed!
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>>Bart Bruno

that's called a man-cave.

np

I want a man-cave!!!! LOL!!! That is the ONE thing my wife doesnt understand to a degree. The need for a DEDICATED herp room not shared with the kids video games, workout equipment, or lawn equipment LOL!!! Is it really being unreasonable to want it to have its own separate plumbing and heating/AC unit too?? LOL!! Heck, put a mini frig with beer in there and I may NEVER come out!!!

Yeah, Up until I read the last part I was going say you can't make it too cool cause you may never come out. LOL That would ruin the whole thing. Push it far enough and you might get your wish and have the WHOLE HOUSE to youself and snakes! LOL

>>I want a man-cave!!!! LOL!!! That is the ONE thing my wife doesnt understand to a degree. The need for a DEDICATED herp room not shared with the kids video games, workout equipment, or lawn equipment LOL!!! Is it really being unreasonable to want it to have its own separate plumbing and heating/AC unit too?? LOL!! Heck, put a mini frig with beer in there and I may NEVER come out!!!

I have a TV, fridge, running water and an a/c in mine........
I hardly ever come out when I'm home......
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John Lassiter
Poor planning and procrastination on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part...
www.coastalbendcaptivebreeding.com

I feel horrible saying it, but I got a big screen plasma that i keep on it's own circuit to be safe...I don't think I could fit it into a herp room. I stretched to buy it about 2 years ago cause I plan for it to last 20 years...
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We wouldn't have 6 and a half billion people if you had to be beautiful to get laid.
6.6 African House snakes
3.2 reticulated pythons
.1 corn snake
4.2 Florida Kings
1.2 speckled kings
1.2 ball pythons
0.0.1 Argentine boa

...my wife uses it as well! Forgot to mention the other things down there; the herp room, a quarantine section, and a makeshirt bench where I can work on instruments. There is also a freezer with a second one soon to follow; one for frozen rodents and the other for deceased herps. I have no complaints!

Bart

Man Cave is an interesting phrase. What we have on our rural property is a large RV and a small cabin. I have the cabin and my partner has the RV. So you might say my whole house is my own cave! This works out very well as my partner and I can be together when we want and be separate when we want. The money is a shared resource so I would feel "bad" going off and spending it on treats for myself, without at least making an effort to sell my partner on the idea first. So far I have resisted temptation but the devil sits on my shoulder 24/7 whispering in my ear!

Besides, I like for my partner to be able to see my snakes and be suitably impressed (heh heh).
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Bob/Chris
Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

Man, I was real close to tranferring from Baton Rouge to the Altanta area a couple of year ago. The one thing I told my wife when we were considering the move was to find a house with a huge basement!! Hee, hee, hee, gotta keep those priorities in mind LOL!! Of course the move would have forced me to get rid of my corns and that would have sucked!!

Your wife reads these forums too huh?
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King Snakes! Who can make a better mouse trap?
J Sierra

"Your wife reads these forums too huh?"

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"a snake in the grass is a GOOD thing"

my website -serpentinespecialties.webs.com

My wife knows better than to ask me about snakes, she's well trained and knows her role...... JOKING OF COURSE.. I have a Man Cave (which i highly recommend by the way) in my basement where i keep my animals and all of my other "guy stuff".. And, the truth is that my wife would never ask and could not care less about how many animals i have down there.

~ Mike Russo

the bikers I work with, would just look at you and say...baby balls baby balls......

you pay the bills? or half?....

......oooooowwwwraaaaaaaaa
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.............the buzzards of Green Hill,,,,grow fat on roadill....buzzards of Green Hill....grow fat on roadkill........

Yes, my wife says my limit is 6 snakes, i have 11 she knows about 8 but i told her i would sell 2... i just put them on CL for a while for a price that nobody in their right mind would pay to make her happy.
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Chris - TX

2.2 Splendida
1.1 Nigrita
1.1 Ruthveni
0.0.3 277 Alterna

By the way did I mention my wife reads these forums from time to time?
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King Snakes! Who can make a better mouse trap?
J Sierra

HehHeh! My partner would no more read these snake forums than I would read the Command&Conquer forums. It's helpful to have separate interests!
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Bob/Chris
Pyromaniac AKA Greatballzofire

Used to get alot of them into the collection that way, but now my wife is cool as long as the snake has breeding & $$ potential. I can't go overboard because of space, time and $$$ considerations, but I've got an awesome wife for not only putting up with, but participating in my crazy/wonderful hobby. Talk about a blessing, she's even considering going roadcruising next year!

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