>>I was surprised yesterday with a beautiful baby nile monitor.
>>Unfortunetely I had never researched them until I was
>>surprised with it. I wanted a savannah, so i know a lot
>>about their care,
Fortunately for you, the care of all monitors is very similar.
>>and i have ten snakes so i am familiar with basic reptile
>>needs. this is however my first monitor.
Unfortunately for you, the care of monitors is very different from that of snakes. Trying to keep a monitor using experience you gained with snakes doesn't end well for the monitor.
>>everything i have read online is really just negative
>>towards the lil guys
And there's a very good reason for that. Nile monitors can be very beautiful and impressive animals. They are also a pain to work with, both metaphorically and literally. Expect blood - yours. Expect a very active, destructive, powerful, fast, and agile pet that is afraid of you and will do whatever it can to defend itself from your perceived aggression.
Some Nile monitors can calm down to the point where a human can meaningfully interact with them. This is not typical. If you expect this, you will probably be disappointed. If you do not expect this, there is a chance you will be pleasantly surprised.
>>and rather than giving good care advice it just says not to
>>get one in the first place.
Since it is too late for that now, I applaud your attitude. Some people find them rewarding animals despite their paranoid disposition. I myself have had one delightful Nile monitor companion (and far too many that were terrors).
>>i need cage set-up advice, feeding regiments
The Pro Exotics web page has good advice on keeping monitors. Since the care of all monitors is basically the same, you can apply this to your animal
http://www.proexotics.com/care_sheets.html
http://www.proexotics.com/FAQ.html
>>and handling tips please.
Simple. Don't. Seriously. With high strung, suspicious monitors like Niles, handling causes stress. Stress makes the animal associate you with something unpleasant, teaching it to fear you. This makes it resist harder, leading to more stress.
What you want to do is get your monitor to trust you. This means letting it come to you on its own terms. Let it come to think of you as a provider of good things - particularly food. Do your best to not do anything to frighten, stress, or upset your pet. A young monitor will be afraid of everything, so at first you will get no meaningful interaction with it. As it matures, however, it will grow bolder. Eventually, it may come to look forward to seeing you since it knows it will be fed. As it becomes more comfortable with you, you can try to interact with it more. It might let you touch it. It might even come and climb on you, or at least sniff you. This is good, you will be making progress. In time it may even allow you to pick it up. If you reach this point, congratulations!
Oh, and check to see if it really is a Nile monitor. Ornate monitors are often sold as Niles. In my experience, ornates tend to have a calmer disposition, but get a bit bigger and are a bit more powerfully built.
Best of luck,
Luke