I too have a 14 week old female dachshund. She is not crazy about her crate either but she will go in there after a while if she knows we will not take her out. Here is the set up the we have that seems to be working pretty well. We have a laundry room that has been designated Savannah domain... the area of the room that she occupies is 4 X 6. I have her crate on one side with the door open and a soft bed inside. I have her food near her crate on the floor and a puppy pad set up in one corner. We also baby gate the door so she doesn't feel closed in the room. I work from home so I have to put her in there during the daytime when I am working. I do come in and out of the house during the day and will leave her for up to 4 hours. I think that leaving the crate door open helps her to feel that it is not a prison for her.. but a place to rest while she waits for the family to play with her!
She does not like it when we put her in the room... no doubt about it! She barks and barks .. at first she barked all day. At one point she barked for 9 hours. But after reading Dachshunds for dummies and talking with folks here on the message boards.. I realize that I had to be more persistent then she. Now... hallelujah... when I put her in the room... she only barks for about 10 minutes. If she hears me talking on the phone she will sometimes bark or whine... but eventually she realizes I am not coming in to get her. We have had her for 3 weeks.
At night she does sleep with my son... but he has a mattress that lies on the floor. We put a cage (one of those fold out exercise pens) around his bed and a puppy pad on the floor. Most nights she does not make it through the night without going to the bathroom. She climbs down and does her business and then climbs back up on his bed. She always goes on the puppy pad now! Yeah! But that took about 2 weeks for her to get it and lots of Nature's Miracle ( a special enzymatic cleaner to remove a dogs urine scent) Unfortunately dachshunds LOVE to sleep with you... our Savannah burrows under the covers with my son and sleeps by his knees. I know when he goes to college she will probably be sleeping with my husband and I !!!
Sorry I wrote a novel... hope this helps.
Ryan's mom- Lori