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Hi all
Went to see the psycologist at John's Rehab Wed, he says John refuses to see me, he is very angry and wants to finish Rehab and start his life over without me. I am devastated. The doctor does not know whether this will change or not, but said it is just going to take time to know how much is the brain injury and how much is really John. For now my life is upside down and I spend most of my time in prayer or trying to take care of the dogs and accept the comfort of friends who all knew us as a happy couple that had everything going for us. It was easier to face when he was telling me he loved me everyday and allowing me to take part in his recovery, but this is almost unbearable.
Thank you so much for all the prayers and positive thoughts!
Love-

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Denice
DnD Shih Tzu
http://dndshihtzu0.tripod.com/

BIG SMOTHERING ((HUG))!!!!!

Denice, it sounds like John doesn't want to be a burden to you with his disabilities and that he is angry at everything and doesn't want to put that on you. I believe in his mind, right now, he thinks you will be better off without him.

Oh Lord, we ask that You give John a breakthrough in this matter. Let him let go of his anger, especially his anger at you Father, that this happened so that he may heal.
Lord, give Denice the strength to face this and the wisdom of how to go about reaching him again, remembering to look to you for guidance.
Jesus, we ask for continued healing of ALL damage caused from this accident, both in body, mind and heart.
Thank you Lord.

Denice, I just feel that you shouldn't give up keeping in contact with John, even if it's a card, note or maybe a favorite food that can be given to him to remind him of your love without him seeing you.
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Dee and Ayla

Dee, I agree with you completely.
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Mary Lou & Katie

Oh Denice, I'm so sorry to hear this but I don't really think that John means this. This may be a stage that he's going through. I think that he's trying to make it easier for you and put the burden on himself. There may be a support group at the hospital of those who have been through something like this and perhaps you can meet with them. My prayers will continue for both John and you.

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Mary Lou & Katie

What suggestions from the psychologist on how to handle this drastic change. Brain injuries are very complicated, so John's comments were no surprise to me. I have heard of personality changes before. Does John have other family memebers in the area?

Definitely get into a support group. The hospital and or doctors should have people that can help you through this. No need to go it alone.

Prayers still coming your way!

Cheryl

>>Hi all
>>Went to see the psycologist at John's Rehab Wed, he says John refuses to see me, he is very angry and wants to finish Rehab and start his life over without me. I am devastated. The doctor does not know whether this will change or not, but said it is just going to take time to know how much is the brain injury and how much is really John. For now my life is upside down and I spend most of my time in prayer or trying to take care of the dogs and accept the comfort of friends who all knew us as a happy couple that had everything going for us. It was easier to face when he was telling me he loved me everyday and allowing me to take part in his recovery, but this is almost unbearable.
>>Thank you so much for all the prayers and positive thoughts!
>>Love-
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>>Denice
>>DnD Shih Tzu
>>http://dndshihtzu0.tripod.com/

Denice, I don't know what to say, except, I love you and I'm praying.....
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Prayers will continue from our house. These types of injuries are so complicated. Keep the faith!
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Gary & the gang

I'm so sorry that he is feeling this way. I know brain injuries are so complicated. I am broken hearted for both of you. I agree, you both need people to help you through this and I pray time will heal him and you will be together!
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Sally & Trudy

My heart hurts for you, Denice. I agree with Dee's thoughts....John may be doing what he thinks is best for you, not wanting to burden you. Keep the faith! I will keep praying!
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Jodi