Hi Roger,
Welcome back, glad you got your first T. Brachypelma smithi (Mexican redknee) is a great choice for a first pet.
I'm curious if a pet store told you to keep your pet like this, because so much of what you've said is not optimal.
I'll try to address everything you've said so you can get it comfy. The fact that it is trying to escape says that is doesn't like it. First of all the substrate needs to be dry, bone dry. The B. smithi doesn't need high humidity, it is a desert species. As long as you provide a waterdish and occasionally overflow it (letting it dry completely in between) then it'll do just fine. Top soil is also not optimal. When it dries, it'll become hard as clay. 100% peat moss would be better, and what I like to do is mix 25% potting soil with 75% peat moss. Ensure that whatever you use, it has no chemicals in it whatsoever. That should also get rid of the fungal smell, topsoil is full of stuff that'll mold and such.
Room temperature is ideal, but anything in between 65-95 is fine.
Remove the sponge ASAP. It is unhealthy and will do nothing but breed bacteria and it'll start to smell, and you can never get it clean. Your tarantula should have a clean waterdish. To keep crickets from drowning, you should either put a piece of slate in it to make a ramp, or put some stones in it to give them something to grab onto so that they might jump out. You should also remove any uneaten crickets after 24 hours. If it eats right when you put them in, then you can remove uneaten ones an hour or two later. But some Ts choose to eat at night only. Keeping additional crickets in the cage can stress the spider out and if the T happens to molt, they could kill it. Feed it a good meal once or twice a week and it'll do just fine.
How big is the spider? 10 gallons is pretty big for a juvie. I wouldn't keep anything in a 10 gallon unitl it was at least 3-4". Until then a delicup or small kritter keeper is better. This also makes it easier for the T to find it's food.
Thinking about it being a juvie, if it is under 2" then it doesn't need a waterdish, instead just keep a corner of the cage moist, but not damp. Still let it dry inbetween.
Tarantulas do not generally like light. They'd be happier if you had no light on the cage. UVA/UVB is not required and no temperature gradients or basking spots are needed.
I'd highly recommend getting "The Tarantula Keeper's Guide" by Stanley A. Schultz. It is the tarantula keeping "bible".
In the mean time, read the author's G. rosea care sheet here:
http://www.acs.ucalgary.ca/~schultz/roses.html
The care requirements for the two species are nearly identical, so you should still learn a lot from it.
Fire away if you have any more questions.
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