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lovidentity Sep 20, 2006 08:40 PM

Hello Everyone~!!
I was just wondering if which gender is generally more affectionate and outgoing...I've never had a cat before, so I don't have personal experience to base my decision on. Right now, I'm planning on buying a persian kitten from a breeder and can't decide between the male and female. Up untill recently, I've had a VERY STRONG bias towards the females because my last pet, a holland lop bunny was a male and he was such a touble-maker and he HATED me...he never let me pet him or pick him up...so ever since then, I have disliked the males. Recently, I've been visiting different catteries and saw some very friendly male cats. I'd like to hear everyone else's opinion on the gender...which do you prefer? MALE or FEMALE? also, does your preference have anything to do with your own gender? (I've always liked girls also because I myself am a girl). I really want a cat that is outgoing, affectionate, and willing to greet anyone that walks in through my door. Which gender should I choose? Thanks in advance for replying to my message!! I look forward to what everyone has to say

Anita

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teganslaw Sep 21, 2006 09:11 AM

Most of my life I've had female cats, though right now I have a male and a female. In my experience the temperament and personality has nothing to do with gender. A former cat of mine(female) was very independent and didn't take to strangers well.
My female cat, Star, is affectionate and a lap cat. She doesn't like to be picked up, though, and hides when visitors come.
My male cat, Quentin, is laid back and affectionate also. He sometimes likes to sit on my lap. He can be a brat, though, because he likes to boss Star around. He is also more outgoing toward strangers.
Anyway,I can't tell you if males or females are better. Each cat has their own personality and as a rule that isn't determined by gender. Both can be wonderful to own.

Ellen

DaMewJerseyKits Sep 21, 2006 12:29 PM

>>Hello Everyone~!!
>> I was just wondering if which gender is generally more affectionate and outgoing...I've never had a cat before, so I don't have personal experience to base my decision on. Right now, I'm planning on buying a persian kitten from a breeder and can't decide between the male and female. Up untill recently, I've had a VERY STRONG bias towards the females because my last pet, a holland lop bunny was a male and he was such a touble-maker and he HATED me...he never let me pet him or pick him up...so ever since then, I have disliked the males. Recently, I've been visiting different catteries and saw some very friendly male cats. I'd like to hear everyone else's opinion on the gender...which do you prefer? MALE or FEMALE? also, does your preference have anything to do with your own gender? (I've always liked girls also because I myself am a girl). I really want a cat that is outgoing, affectionate, and willing to greet anyone that walks in through my door. Which gender should I choose? Thanks in advance for replying to my message!! I look forward to what everyone has to say
>>
>>Anita
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Bob Daisy Emily


DaMewJerseyKits Sep 21, 2006 12:55 PM

YIKES, my VERY long message dissapeared.

Anyway, my five cents here (abridged):

- Gender doesn't matter. Both male and female can be excellent companions, and you should be able to tell whether a cat/kitten is friendly and likes to get attention. Just try to interact with the potentials.
-I would really encourage you to consider adopting a homeless animal instead of a purebred one. There are plenty around, many of them purebred (two of mine are *purebred rescued* animals). A lot of organizations actually foster the animals in case you are wary of shelter conditions. I find that a lot of the rescued animals are very grateful to their owners, and show it!
-May I suggest as well getting an adult instead of a kitten? Kittens are small, cute and cuddly, but they all grow to adults.

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Bob Daisy Emily


DaMewJerseyKits Sep 21, 2006 12:58 PM

One more thing I forgot from my big deleted message:

-DO NOT BUY from a backyard breeder. Make sure, if you decide to buy purebred, that the breeder is reputable (member of at least one cat organization, such as CFA, ACFA, TICA). They should be a ble to provide you with references and they should let you visit the facilities and meet the parents/kittens.

Good luck finding the right one

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Bob Daisy Emily


PHTessie Sep 21, 2006 06:59 PM

Hi ! I have to agree, gender makes no real difference, its the individual cats personality and the best way is to interact with them before making a decision.

Now on another point, you mention you have never had a cat before. A few things you may want to consider, Persians are very high maintenance cats. They need daily grooming! That beautiful fluffy kitten you start with can quickly become a very unhappy, mat covered baby without it. This is one of the main reasons Persians end up in shelters. There are also the eye and possible breathing problems to consider. A short haired cat, whether from a responsible breeder or from a shelter, is a lot less work, especially for someone who has no experience..good luck with whatever you decide
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PHTessie