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Yesterday, my beloved cat and friend Charlie died suddenly. He was 16, he lived a long and blissful life here with me, but I still wasn't prepared for him to leave so suddenly. He was fine when I left for work, and then could not move his back legs by 3pm and died at the vet at 5pm. I am devastated. Charlie was a unique, affectionate, loving cat. He always wanted to be in my lap, snuggled up in my bed or having his belly rubbed. The house is empty. His personality warmed the place everyday, he made my heart happy. I know he is better now in kitty heaven with his brother Sam who we lost last year, but I miss him so much. How do I get through the days without my best pal? I literally feel like my heart is breaking.

Hi Again,

Grief is the price we pay for love. I read this last year and I will never forget it.

Any loss is difficult but the sudden loss of such a special baby is the hardest. Charlie was a one-in-a-million cat and you had no idea he would be leaving you. I'm sure it has been a tremendous shock and, in some ways, very hard to accept. It feels as of someone has reached into your chest and has torn out a piece of your heart.

I know it doesn't seem possible but the passage of time will help you to cope. As I mentioned in another post, the Pet Loss chats can help you through this. It has always helped me to be around others who understand the special bonds we have with our babies. Perhaps you can do something special to honor Charlie, such as write a poem, a story, or put together a scrapbook. The memories of him will always be with you and he has left his pawprints on your heart.

If you like, I can also post some grief sites that have helped me through hard times.

Take care and please remember that the PetSupport.net Staff is here for you.......

Regards,
PHKitkat
PetSupport.net Site Coordinator

Hi. I just lost my 13 year old Peanut today. We went to a vet Friday where he was diagnosed with CRF. I made a midnight trip to a vet hospital 2 hrs from home last night to have tests done to see if there was any hope. Today at 2:00 we put him to sleep. I feel our pain and understand the emptiness. I have 4 other cats but somehow tonight my home feels so quiet and lonely. I feel like I am in a vacuum where no good feeling can ever come again. I ache to hug and kiss his soft fur once more. Sending you hugs and hope time has begun to ease the ache.

Hi,

I am so sorry for your loss of Peanut. CRF is a very tough disease to deal with even when it is caught early. Sometimes it's best to let our precious babies go rather than try to treat them. We are able to do this only because we love them so much. I know the pain of having to make this decision.

I also have a multicat household and know how each precious baby has his or her own place in our hearts. When they leave us there is always a void that no other cat can fill. And the pain we experience is like nothing else.

It's hard to believe at this point, but the passage of time will help you to cope. You will never forget Peanut, of course, but as time goes on the pain will ease. Perhaps the day will come when you would like to do something to honor Peanut. You can do this by writing a story, putting together a special photo album, writing a poem, etc. It has always helped me to do something like this for each of my babies.

We have a pet loss chat every night if you are interested in attending. It really helps to spend time with others who understand. We are here for you if you need us.

{{{{}}}}

Take care, and please feel free to post anytime.

Regards,
PHKitkat
PetSupport.net Site Coordinator

Brenda,

I just got your message today, I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how it feels. Even 3 weeks later, I catch myself aching for Charlie. We have since added a new member to our family, another black & white cat named Varitek. he is amazingly sweet, but he is not Charlie, nor do I expect him to be. I love Charlie dearly and miss him every day. It is easier today then it was 3 weeks ago, so please know the pain will subside, but the memories never fade. I hope your memories of Peanut keep you smiling and that your other cats give you comfort in this sad time. It is so amazing how attached we become to these creatures, without mine I would be lost. If you need to talk, I am here.