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I am getting ready to head out for the airport in about an hour. Just thought I would post yet another THANK YOU and also update you on something....

As some of you are aware a "friend" of my father's is staying in his house. This is a lady I have disliked since I was 12 years old and to this day still do not trust or like. She called both myself and my sister out of the blue last night and informed us that.........

They had a power of attorney and a will signed during the day Tuesday. Problem is.... my father was on a morphin drip at the time and I do not think he was thinking straight. I had spoken with him Sunday (Day before he was rushed to the hospital) and his plans were still to move back down here to Florida..... Well anyway to continue... This woman (Sandy) said to my sister and myself that my father was dieing and didn't have long to live. That she saw no reason for us to be going to VA and that she would not allow us in his room, nor let us see him alone at any time. She went on to say that we are "nothing" to my father and that we have no rights what so ever! I was so tore up that my husband decided to call my ex husband last night and find out what exactly was going on. According to my ex, they are still not 100% sure about cancer and a lot of what "Sandy" had to say he knew absolutely nothing about. I am so very confused and hurt by all of this.... all I want is to be near my father and to help in any way I can and I have people playing cruel mind games with me over the phone.

This isn't the entire story of those phone calls, but it is enough for you all to know what I will be dealing with once I reach VA. I may be posting and asking if we have a lawyer on the board that will take on a freebie!!!!

This Lady Sandy is in for a rude awaking because if she has the nerve to refuse me ANYTHING.... I DO have an "ace up my sleeve" that I am willing to use. I KNOW as a fact that the IRS has been trying to catch up with her for at least 10 years on tax fraud......and I KNOW where she is!

Thank you all for allowing this little rant and for all the help and support I have received from you. I will try to get internet access a few times while up there and keep you all updated on things.

God bless and Happy holidays

Cheri and Grim dog.... I am going to email you my cell phone number.... you can call me from time to time and check up on things if you wish

LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!
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Lisa
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Cricket FREE babies!

and I hope you find that this women is full of ****.
Sorry it has to made even harder for you.
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TheClassyLizard

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Tracey
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I will be praying for you!
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-Lauren

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I hope she gets what she's got coming. She surely deserves it.

I'm glad we could all come together and help a bit during this tough time. Hang in there Lisa. We will all have you, and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
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I just talked to Lisa in the Airport & read her all your replies.

You all have cheered her up & she says thank you.

She needs some prayers right now so please take a min, (if you haven't already, or if you care to again,, it can't hurt)
She needs all the support she can get & God's support will be the most helpful.

"Matthew 18:19"

Thanks.
JoelR
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Joel R

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Not to bog down this forum with a bunch of legal jargon, but someone may want to get this to Lisa, I know she has a lot going on, but also, she needs to note the Doctors names that are treating him, and the nurses on each shift's name.

We went through much the same situation when my stepdad was hospitalized and then passed away. Our mother had passed away just months before him, and of course left everything to him and use children after, his will was mutual with hers.

I don't know about VA law, but we sure learned Florida Law fast and it was disappointing to say the least. What some people will pull when someone is ill shocked me.

Although there was a will by him and it had been updated just 3 weeks prior to him going into the hospital, someone got to him a few days after he had surgery with an attorney right there at the hospital and he "signed" a new will, the total reversal of the prior one and of course it left everything to the person that brought that will to him and the attorney was directed in it to administer his estate. Something we know he never would have directed OR agreed to.

Although we knew he was not lucid {he had not recognized any of us since the surgery, know where he was or WHO he was), we found out that in Florida, anyone that may profit by a will, couldn't testify. We challenged the new will and reported the attorney to the Bar Association. They did take actions and sanctions against him for ethics violations..... but the will stood in court as the attorney and the inheriting party's priest testified that our stepfather knew what he was doing and we were not allowed to present anyone or the prior will. We did not have the medical staff's name at the time..... we actually thought that presenting the medical records that he was incoherent would suffice and the signature on the will was not his, but a scrawl.

We lost everything, and basically a drug addict that just got out of prison and a disbarred attorney gained everything my mother had and her family had passed down to her. My stepfather had directed in the will 3 weeks prior and the will before that, that this person was to be kept away from him and not allowed to receive anything, but the courts would not let us admit that prior will... a will and its directions can only be executed AFTER a death and if there is one after that will, it is invalidated. The Judge told us in this situation is was terrible what happened, but nothing within the law he could do.

Once they had that new will signed we had no legal standing at all. There was absolutely nothing we could do legally. Later we learned from the medical staff they could have testified that he was not coheirant at any time and would never have known what he signed or if he was signing anything, at that point it was too costl, they thought over $250,000(it would have been years fighting it) to do anything, besides they had quickly disposed of most thing or liquidated them.

If we had the medical staff names and brought them into court, we probably would have prevailed and the prior will upheld... hindsight

Lisa's only legal standing at this point is to petition the court as "a friend of the court" to appoint an independant guardian to assure that her stepfather is aware of what he is doing and going on and that he is not taken advantage of.
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its kinda iffy, but a call to virginia's elder abuse hotline might not be a bad idea either
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is the fact that if the patient is in a hospital with doctors who do not know him, they are not always the best judges of "coherent" actions.

When my mom was in the hospital last summer, they told us she needed immediate treatment in another hospital 2 hrs away. She was so drugged up and incoherent that she kept refusing treatment, but they wouldn't let me (as oldest child) make the decision to send her b/c they said she knew what was going on and was rational.

The next day when she came around, she didn't even remember us all being there or what had happened, and she accepted the transfer once we explained what was going on. So much for the doctors knowing the patient's abilities!!

Just something else to pass on to Lisa. I don't want her to stress out and worry needlessly, but this is something that did happen to us...
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1.0 Bearded Dragon

Maybe Paul from Sandfire will donate one of those venomous Yellow Spotted Lizards to Lisa so she can let it loose on that biznatch of a person, Sandy. That'd teach her.

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