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Well, he is out of the hospital and the doctors have said anywhere from 2 months to ????????

Things have turned into quite a mess here and I also found his safe wide open and a few "legal" type documents missing, such as checks, mortgages, etc.

I am getting things sorted and also trying to be a "rock" for him... it is very hard at times not to break down and cry, but right now, he needs strength and not weakness. They said this could possibly be his last Christmas and so he will be spending it with me in Florida. His treatments begin on Jan 5th. Anyone who will be going to the Orlando show this upcoming Saturday will get to meet him

Thanks all )

I couldn't have done this without you all.
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Lisa
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Lisa,
I'm glad your Father is out of the hospital. All I can say is that not many people know when their time is coming. Although I know you have legalities to figure out, don't let it consume you at this time. Take the time to enjoy your Dad and leave nothing unsaid.

God Bless,
Christy~
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TheClassyLizard

Especially this time of the year it has to be even harder. I'm going through something similar with my grandmother right now. Minus the legalities of course. I can't even imagine the emotional strain it must be to deal with selfish individuals who take advantage of these situations as well as the heartache of knowing how sick your father is. It must be a tremendous emotional rollercoaster ride.
Christy is right however, you have a great oppurtunity to set things in order between you and your father and not many people have that chance. Don't let the people or person who is taking advantage take that from you. In the end, they will get what is coming to them. Those type people always do.
I am praying for you to find peace with all of this and for this to be a great holiday for you and your father, despite the circumstances.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you!

Sincerely,
Robert

Lisa, I'm glad your dad got out of the hospital. I'm so sorry to hear about the other problems he is having with people going through his safe. I hope you got a police report taken on that incident. It's really good he was able to make that decision to go back with you, and get away from whoever did that to his personal property. Obviously that person has other motives then to see him in good health, and making his own decisions. You know through email what I went through with cancer myself, and with my father and brain cancer. Doctors are going to always give the worse case scenario and say things like 2 months to whatever. Main thing is not to dwell on that time, and take things one day at a time making the best out of each no matter how hard I know that seems. When my father had brain cancer they said the same type things like two months to whatever. We just never told our dad that, and took things as they came. Every 2 months we would see that doctor and he would give us another 2 months to whatever time period again. This had gone on for 2 and a half years. He did pass on, but it was not from the brain cancer the doctors thought it would be. So everyone's case is different, and everyone's will to go on is different. Just make the best out of each day, and take it one day at a time no matter how hard that seems at times. I know what your going through, you want to be so strong for him, but at the same time inside it is ripping you up. Be strong for your father, but also take some time away from him where you can deal with some of the feelings you are having inside yourself. I took care of my father for 2 years straight 24 hours a day. Everyday I would go for a 15 minute drive to the water when he was napping, and just let all the feelings come out, crying my eyes out at times. It does help, and no matter how tough you have to be around him take the time for yourself to deal with the feelings as well. It does help. I owe my sanity to my dragons as crazy as that sounds. They did occupy my mind, and gave me time to clear my head of my illness, and my fathers illness. They always brought a smile to mine, and my fathers face. If you ever need to talk, or get rid of some of those feelings just drop me an email Lisa. I've been there myself. I'm still saying my prayers for you, your father, and family. Hang in there Lisa.
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I think you deserve one of my big
(((((((Mommy bear hugs)))))) Mattman (although I'm 5' 3/4", I can squuueeeze really well).
It's truly amazing how we don't think of what people have gone/are going through when we post on this board.
I'm feeling pretty melancholy myself today. On Dec 3rd, 1988, I had a baby girl, she died of SIDS on Jan. 9th of 1989. We had her through one Christmas, needless to say, Christmas has never been the same.
But, as I'm sure you know, life does go on, and so must we.

If tears could build a stairway,

and memories a lane,

I'd walk right up to heaven

and bring you back again.
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TheClassyLizard

But on a serious note life does suck in a way. It can just bring you to your knees at the drop of a hat. I lost my dad 2.5 years ago and have had other poop go on. That is why I wanted to help Lisa, know how scary that poop is.
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Derek Affonce
DeKeAff Exotics
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TheClassyLizard

Christy and Matt.....big hugs to both of you......I also took care of my father when he had cancer and watched him wither away.....I was strong on the outside, in front of him and everyone, but crying buckets on the inside....I think Matt has a great idea.....I didn't let much of anything come out until he died.....I think it might have been easier if I did.

And Christy....with all I know about you.....I never knew about your loss of a child like that.....I can't even begin to know what that must have been like. My heart is with you today and every Dec 3rd from now on.....big hugs to you especially today and every Dec 3rd from now on.
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Tracey
Tracey's Beardies
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Thanks so much Christy. My eyes almost popped out you squeezed so hard LOL. Yeah this is a tough time of year for me too. My father did succumb to his illnesses and passed away last December 14th after a long valiant battle. It felt like I fought right next to him day in and day out. I was worn out, and tired myself, but he refused to have a nurse come and take care of him. He was such a strong man though. So this is definitely a tough time of the year for me as well, and the feelings are just so fresh. When I wrote an email to Lisa the feelings she was going through were just so fresh to me. I could feel her fear, and heartache. I've been doing good thank God, and they were able to operate on me and currently I'm in remission. I was lucky. I like to think cured You really don't know if it will come back again, but each day is a new day without the illness, and their very optimistic which helps. Like I said some doctors are just so raw, and it's always the worse case scenario. Thank you very much.
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It gets better with the passing time. The first year without him is the toughest. For you that will probably be this year as last year you were probably still in shock. My dad only survived 2 months from diagnosis. It was very tough. But those 2 months were great, and horrible. It allowed you to say your goodbyes and say what you needed to say. But also aweful because you have to stand with you head high at all times. I am the oldest son, second oldest sibling but the older one isn't that responsible. I had to take care of my mom who took the passing very hard. The dr's hated me. Being a researcher I read and read and read. I abused this poor fellow till she had to leave the room. She was just stupid and seemed to know less about the current research on this type of cancer than I did. The actual Dr. came in and gave us the same [bleep] but he knew what I was talking about which was refreshing. When my dad passed away I remeber walking out of the church. Sunglasses on because I had to walk through rows of people. And you have to be strong and keep you head up, no crying. Crying is reserved for private but is also very useful. And believe it or not the pain does go away. The thoghts of the person don't. But they become less and less saddening with time. Although there are certain things that happen that make it seem like it happened yesterday, like the holidays, seeing others go through it, and other stupid things. But it does get better. The first snake I got was actually something to make myself feel better when my dad was sick. My first BCI, artemis.
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Derek Affonce
DeKeAff Exotics
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crap like what they told my mom yesterday - "at the end of this month, you will be the longest known survivor of this type of cancer."

do they really think that makes any of us feel any better? she's only been diagnosed for a year and 5 months.
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1.0 Bearded Dragon

Our thoughts and prayers are with you......hoping that this time spent with your Dad can be all you want it to be and more! Have a safe trip home with him and keep us posted when you can!
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Tracey
Tracey's Beardies
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We're all hear for you sweetie. I wish you didn't have to go through this. Be strong and try to not dwell on the future. Enjoy this time with your father and your family.

I wish someone would've told me that my grandfather only had so much time left. He died unexpectedly a few days before Thanksgiving (a few years ago) and there were things I wish I could've told him before he left. I didn't have a chance to so I hope you make the most of this opportunity you have been given and spend as much time with your father as you can.

You will all be in my prayers and I hope you have a memorable Christmas.

Love,
Veronica
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Beautiful Dragons

((hugs!)) Thanks for the update, you are in my thoughts and prayers!
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-Lauren

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