Hi Bob. I guess you need to stop and think about this.
You seem to be doing the monitor thing, so its time you take another path about rule making.
First to determine if a monitor is gravid by being pudgy is very inaccurate. Its also very primative. Lastly its misleading and setting a bad example for newcomers.
With most small monitors its very easy to palpate them gently and feel the eggs, in many cases, you can see the eggs if you just look. To palpate is to simply let them crawl on their own accord thru your fingers. Keep your fingers slighly smaller then the diameter of the monitor in question.
Species like tristis and specially your favorite, the prasinus group, are so very easy to palpate its almost funny.
About egg size, as the first to breed VTT and the second in the states to breed VTO , Breeding both for many years, I find no difference in egg size between the two. Of course, any single female can and do lay a range of egg sizes, From a few large eggs, to many small eggs, to the opposite, of a few small eggs to many large eggs. You may be thinking about Ackies, True reds and yellows do have a real difference in their range of egg size.
The reality is, V.tristis, can be very sneeky about reproduction. Some never get pudgy and often dig their nests from hidden spots, like under boards. Its possible you will never notice anything. This mostly applies to very young females and females laying very few eggs.
I do agree that most gravid females have a distintive look, but unfortunately, it only covers most of the females, not all of them. That is the different path of rule making. There is little of all this does this, and all that does that. Also assigning species to everything you see is odd. As most monitor species, do this. As you gain experience, you will see that species differences apply more to how they do what they do, not what they do. But of course, thats vague too. Of course I wish you good luck with your critters, F