"Then you have folks like you seem to be(forgive me for judging) who want to make a monitor into a dog or something its "really" not."
I am not offended at all by your post, let me get that out of the way right up front but I do have a few things to ask/say...
When my husband gave me Angus 3 1/2 years ago, I honestly can say we knew enough about monitors to keep him alive and that was about it. We've had other reptiles all our lives but Angus is our first monitor. In no way do I proclaim to be an expert on anything that will fit into any of the message boards you can find here! We knew what we were getting ourselves into, so to speak, but we didn't know all we should have known before buying him.
Since then, we have done our best to become proficient at keeping Angus healthy and happy ( and we have made our share of mistakes, to be truthful)but it was never a case of we wanted some kinds of weird conversation piece. We've always been animal people, exotics have always held a special interest for us. I am a licensed wildlife rehabber specializing in birds and small mammals, but we always had a love of reptiles.
I never wanted to be one of those people that had 200 different herps just so we could say "Look what we have!" like so many people do. We got Angus when he was but 3 or 4 days old and decided instead of having many living comfotably, we'd focus on making one very comfortable. I have no interest in breeding them or even getting another one as long as we have Angus.
I never intended to make him into a lap dog. Honestly. He was intended to stay in his tank/enclosure and be viewed, etc. It never works that way. I have a bad habit of absolutely spoiling my animals. My "pets" get better attention than most people's kids I'm sorry to say...it's a maternal thing I guess, I am mommy to many species. When Angus was very young he got injured through stupidity on my part and I overcompensated by hovering over him night and day and trying to make things right more in my mind than anything else...and in doing so, I guess, I spoiled him rotten.
Some would say that is a good thing and then some would say I ruined him and made him a lesser creature by doing so. The way I look at it is this. I made the commitment to take him into my home and make him a member of the family, so he is here to stay. When he was hurt, we paid the vet bills and didn't say, "oh well, it's just a $35 lizard...", when he got an attitude as a youngster, instead of saying "I won't touch him anymore because he's a turd" we said lets get him secure with us so this doesn't happen again. I looked at it like it was better to have him passive and socially retarded (compared to a wild Nile), than to have a crazy wild and aggressive potentially dangerous animal in our house.
I admit, he is and always will be a wild animal. Just because he tolerates us and allows us to handle him and puts up with the other animals does not make him a puppy. BUT...at the same time, I refuse to give up on a "pet" and will do anything I can to make them comfy and fit in with the rest of his household even if they aren't natural allies. We never lose sight of the fact that he could do harm with little or no effort, but hope that he never gets to the point that he feels he has to.
"I guess folks have the right to do and think whatever they want. But, I really feel their is one major misunderstanding. And that is, monitors are the ultimate reptile, that means, their behavior, actions and abilities are directly controlled by their envoirnment(temps and much more)"
You are correct. I agree 100%. Again. I spoil my "kids" regardless of what they are...and that is my weakness. Not many Niles have a sleeping bag and personalized hammock, and not many Niles get back rubs, and not many Niles are hand fed chunks of steak and salmon...but does it really diminish what he is? Is he any less of a Nile for my stupid hangups?
"Monitors are like a car with a manual tranny. There are many gears. The enviornment controls what gears the monitor uses. In nature, monitors use all of their gears, all the time...
The problem if I am right is, many judge their animals on one gear. To me, a monitor is only a monitor if its allowed to reach all its gears. You can judge a dog or bird because they are warm blooded and that is the major difference. Monitors are not and do different things at different temps."
Again, I agree with you, but is he worse off being pampered and spoiled rotten by me, or by being neglected and slowly killed by someone less inclined to make the necessary sacrifices to keep an animal like this healthy and happy? Would he be better off in some college kids dorm to be an ornament that gets shoved in everyones face as a reaction getter and then tossed aside when the novelty is gone? I do not think that just anyone should be able to walk in and buy an animal that requires special care. They are not dogs or cats. You have to take time to educate yourself as well as those around you to make sure everyone is safe and happy.
In the long run, it's a case f what's the lesser of 2 evils. an overindulging doting mommy or a neglectful shock enthusias kid...by rights, it should be neither. But I won't complain. My guy is happy, and I feel sorry for the ones who aren't.
"With that said, its my view that monitors do not even let a fly sit on them, muchless a harness. When(and I have tried) I put a harness(or anything for that matter) on them. All they do is try to get it off. They will spend hours, days, weeks, whatever it takes to get it off."
I have to disagree here. Maybe I got lucky and got the mutant monitor with no hangups...I dunno what the case is, but I have never had any major rebellion go on. I have never seen him get weird about a harness or collar or the stupid little biker vest I made for him, or the cat laying on top of him, or the bird picking up the end of his tail and trying to walk away with it not realizing it was attached to something with teeth...he is just...well adjusted. He really doesn't mind much of anything. Believe me, if he doesn't like something, it is well known. He is very opinionated and will let you know if he doesn't like something.
"I will say, when in first gear, they could careless. "
Maybe his tranny is stuck. He is always laid back.
"I do have questions, how do you know all the stuff you know? like how do you know what a monitor loves/likes, etc. Or is happy, unhappy, thrilled, etc??? The reason I ask is, that is very difficult think to know. Specially when they do not get out of first gear. Or if they are not in the context they are designed for. "
That is a very good question. I have a rather disappointingly inaccurate answer to try to pass off as a reason. (grin)
I don't know.
I can only speculate based on body language, temperment, reaction to his surroundings, etc. When I walk into the kitchen. Angus will follow me in there and plop on the floor and watch. If I dig in the fridge and start cooking, he will ooch closer and just lay there and watch. I offer him a taste of something, he will take it and come back for more if he likes it, or drop it and walk away if he doesn't.
When my son comes home from school, Angus will get up and follow him to his room and flop on the floor near his table while he does his homework. When he leaves his room, Angus will go about his own thing and often return to his crate and lay under his UV light. The cats will get in his crate and sprawl out under the hot light and he doesn't flinch, get weird, slap or act up. He will either move over and get out of their way or he will wait for them to get situated and then climb right up on top and resume basking.
Often he will show interest in things we do and we encourage it. If he investigates something unknown, rarely will he give it a second thought when it reoccurs. For example...we are in the middle of doing house renovations. The first time my husband air compressor kicked in, poor angus almost jumped out of his skin. He scrambled across the floor and wedged his big butt under the couch and wouldn't come out. After the compressor cycled and turned off, he came out and investigated the alien with the loud voice. after he realized it wasn't going to get him, he doesn't even blink when it goes off.
He seems to take a liking to children as he follows my son and his friends all over the house. Not jogging playfully behind like a dog, but he'll mosey into the room, stomp through their army men, climb into the bed, flop across the video game console while they're trying to play...he seems to put himself in the direct path of them just to get the attention. If you ignore him, he'll go away and not return. If you make a fuss and pick him up and talk to him and pay a little attention to his effortsm he'll keep coming back time and time again. He can't seem to get enough.
In my opinion, all of these things tell me what he likes and dislikes. It's all common sense. I know he LOVES cheese...he'll rob you of your pizza if you give him a chance...he has no fear. He is bold, intelligent and non-compromising in any situation that doesn't suit his needs. He knows what is not allowed and gets sneaky when he tries to do it again. He knows I don't want him in the kitchen cabinets...I put a long spoon in the handles to keep him from opening them up and pulling all the junk out. If I'm poking through the cabinets and have the spoon out of the handles, he will distract me with knocking everything off the end table and when I go to pick it up, guess where he is...back in the cabinet.
If I had the chance to have another Nile, I'd probably turn it down because it would be greatly diminished by the experience I have had with Angus. I never at any time wanted to give the impresion that I am the monitor whisperer...that's not it at all. I simply wanted to share my extraordinary little guy with those who share a love for animals and hoped to hear some other stories similar to my own but sadly I have only heard of problematic and difficult situations...and when I tell my story no one ever believs me...and that hurts. Even my vet didn't believe he was as docile and compliant as I said until he met him and he was AMAZED...I am not trying to appear as a know it all, because I only know enough to be good to my boy, I can't speak for others...I am always open for suggestions and comments.
Gigi
Sorry I'm so long winded...I just love my Angus and want to share him with the world!