Charlotte, I'm extremely sorry about your loss. This is one of the reasons I'm so apprehensive about shipping and receiving shipments. This strand shows how important the shipping end of our hobby is. Unfortunately, there is no great method of shipping, and with many airlines and other companies refusing to ship reptiles, or making the effort really difficult, I think many are grasping at finding a good way to do it. There's also the folks that are in it for the bucks, and don't respect the snakes or the customer nearly enough.
I don't ship very often, maybe a few times a year, but I always worry about the conditions. It's not always easy to know about the best conditions either. Sometimes people don't like waiting too long for their snake/snakes (laugh it up TP), but I do worry about the weather, etc. I also sometimes make someone wait quite awhile before shipping to me on that rare occasion. I've even managed to piss a few people off, much to my regret. But it isn't easy finding the right conditions and/or the right person to send to you.
I've managed to not lose any snakes in shipments, so far. My problems have been with finding a shipper that's willing to deal with live reptiles. But I can readily understand why there can be problems. We should make every effort to educate the forum participants of the best methods of shipping and receiving.
All that said, I haven't much respect for the methods of the person you did business with. I don't even want to know who it is. Small time, unacknowledged hobbyists, aren't exactly the people I want to do business with, and yet, at the same time, that's kind of what I am. I guess you have to try to show people somehow that you are sincere and care about what you do. That is possible with forums like this one. Also, you should try to learn as much as you can about the person you're doing the transaction with. If they're not trustworthy, they never get my business again.
I don't approve of the boxing of the snake shipped to you, or the attitude of the person sending the snake. That person should be bending over backwards making sure you are a happy customer. Like someone said, reputations can be hurt severely by not caring about customer satisfaction. Maybe that's partly why people don't stay in the hobby too long, if all they care about is the money. But, a hard lesson is learned, that some dealers are just that---dealers.
I hope you get another snake or your money back. Tell the seller to look at this strand, Charlotte.
Sorry, for being so long winded. It's my nature and I can't help it. Hope it wasn't too boring. Later...TC.