Hey angus,
I just sent you another email with some more info from my own experiences with them. Yes, males will typically be of a larger build, and have a larger, broader head. Females are usually pettite and have smaller, narrower heads. Hoever, like I said before, this may be misleading, as I have been fooled many a times before. Tailbase is another somewhat definitive way of determining the sex as well, although not perfect. When looked at in cross-section, males will have a more triangular shaped tailbase, and females will have a more round, circular shaped tailbase. As the animals mature, and put on good body weight, this becomes more clear, than when you might first get them in and they are very dehydrated and skinny.
In my experience, females do not feed as voraciously as males do; in fact, I usually separate the pair upon getting them, in an effort to get the female feeding strongly off of tongs/hemostats. By making sure she feeds directly from me, I can then introduce the pair together, without too much worries. Usually, the male will eat the female's food too, if left in the cage for her to eat at her own disgression(usually when you have left her sight). By getting her to eat from your hands/tongs/etc, i think that will be beneficial to her success..
So maybe, the more voracious feeder is the male, and the less-voracious eater is the female. For this is what I have seen in my collection, with exception to my V. macraei.
I hope this helps a bit more angus, I'll talk to you later... Take care, have a wonderful day..
bob

The ODatriad