Yeah, good thinking. Have you contacted a vet?
What I did was, I noticed my male not eating for a period of time and I thought maybe he was just acting a little finicky.. This continued for about a week and he was still refusing food. So, after a few more days of nothing, I took action. I had to force feed him, which I hated doing(But, you gotta do what you gotta do..) and I would put my finger in some water then kind of gently ub it onto his lips so that they were wet. I would wait for him to lick it off and while he was licing I'd quickly wet my finger again and put it by his mouth so he could continue drinking. I found the area that you'll most easily open the mouth at was on the side. You'll need to hold the mealworm/cricket as still as possible because she might only open her mouth briefly.. It can get difficult. It took time and patience.. Then after a few days of force feeding him, I let him be.. And I decided to put some crickets in because something about how they move triggers hunting mode in a gecko normally(I had tried before force feeding as well, to no avail..). He gradually became interested in his food and I slowly switched him back to his mealworms. He's not pigging out like he used to, but he's eating at least 8 mealies a day now! Maybe you should be seperating your female from the other leos while she is giving you trouble because she might feel stressed or threatened. Geckos are touchy that way. I hope this helps you out some! Good luck. 
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-Britney
Atlantic Reptiles(In the works)
1.3.1 Leopard Geckos: Ron, Raine, Dream, Tango and Go-Go.
0.0.1 Lined Snake: Monty
0.0.1 Bearded Dragon: No name yet, lol.