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-In response to ProtaZoey, who said:
Why do you always have to be rude, sparke? You seem to be the one who starts stuff based on ONE poorly worded response to a question. If you ask me, YOU are the one who has a problem with people's opinions. I don't think he was trying to put anyone down regarding their choice on substrate, only making a suggestion. If you are looking to pick a fight, go to a bar or somewhere else that warrants that kind of action or words.

-I would like to say:
That's funny! I don't remember ever saying anything rude to you...guess you're just so bored that you need to take offense at something that was said to someone else. But, to be honest, sometimes I intend to say something a bit strong (I believe, even after the Patriot Act, I still have that right).

If you'll notice, I don't say things in "absolutes" in the forums, and I don't give "empty" compliments. I mean what I say and I say what I mean.

When someone asks about how to care for their new snake one day, then the next day they are dispensing information as if it were gospel, that bothers me. If I were to wake up blind one day, and I cried out for help, I would be awfully disappointed to find out that another blind man had come to my aid and tried to pretend as if he could see clear as day!

You don't have to agree with me, and I don't expect you to do so. I tell people what works best for me, as well as some of the alternatives that others have expressed works well for them. I don't pretend to know what any one person likes over any other, or that my way is the ONLY way. I expect others to do the same.

You don't have to like me, as you obviously don't. Should I pay rent for the space I've taken up in your head?

You don't have to read my posts. And if you tend not to like the things I have to say, I recommend you don't read them.

"Why do you have to be so rude?" What kind of stupid question is that? Why do you have to butt into a conversation you had no part of in the first place? Why is it that nobody had anything to say about me being rude until I apologized to someone for being rude to them (without anyone telling me I should, I might add!)?

Get a life!

I couldnt find the post that you were replying too. But I have to agree with her commenting on you being rude. I have seen you questioning people's intelligence, because they disagreed with you on a few occassions. Also, about her butting into a conversation that had nothing to do with her, well this is a public forum, and she can reply to anything that she wants. Private discussions are for e-mail or the telephone. Dont take my comments as an insult, as I am just telling you how I see it. Lighten up a bit....
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No offense taken...you make some good points.

I have read this and went on my merry way, not intending to reply at all.......but something you said struck me as being completely off base...it "bothers" you that people who use this forum for advise use it as gospel.

Yeah, some do...like myself....and you know, if it was not for this forum, I would be a careless snake owner. I have just begun my collection with two very young balls. I did the research and thought I was going into this as a "pro-know it all" owner. But (for lack of a non-pottymouth word) "stuff happens"...and people, including myself, look to those here who have been through "stuff" (again, ain't gonna say it!!). They look for this advise out of despaitation, and yes, when they get it and it works...it becomes gospel!!

as an added note: Please, understand that even your strong opinion cannot be brought across in a written stance with the same emotion as you intended...the emotion can only POSSIBLY come from the reader...i have read things from you that seemed a bit "harsh", but I also take into consideration that people who are reading a screen, cannot see the smile on your face while writing....

Use the forum for it's intention. (Both parties) Ease up!!! A grain of salt, and an occasional new snake works too!!

*it "bothers" you that people who use this forum for advise use it as gospel. *

I think you misread what I wrote. Let me restate it:

"When someone asks about how to care for their new snake one day, then the next day they are dispensing information as if it were gospel, that bothers me."

My point was that I've seen some people giving advice (i.e. you MUST do it this way) the day after asking for novice-type advice themselves. In other words, a day on the forum and they're already an "expert". And their way is the ONLY way. I think the word you missed was "dispensing". I misread things all the time, so I'm not trying to make you feel dumb or anything.

I believe strongly in the benefit of this forum for newbies and experienced keepers alike. I love hearing about someone's new snake and helping point them in the right direction to provide good care for it. I like hearing their feedback the next day (i.e. "my snake ate, finally! Thanks guys" and seeing their questions become increasingly more complex and insightful. Then, after a while, they are able to give out information to other newbies...and the cycle continues But it takes longer than a day, for crimmeny's sake!