Hmmm..so was the one you thought a male spurring the one you thought a female? Or do you actually have a pair, but your confused as to which is the male and which is the female? Personally, I'd get them sexed if I were you and see if the person can teach you how to do it as well. Finding adult female balls is becoming harder with everyone out there trying to get them as well, and known females aren't going cheap anymore. SO...get them accurately sexed, and then get a plan of attack together. Like dangerously said, spur size isn't the best way of sexing snakes, just a decent generalization. Good luck
Paul