"I think your wording is off a bit. I would call any animal that tolerates or shares space performing social behavior. That is what social is....A solitary creature should fight over space food etc. and probly only tolerate one another during breeding if that. Take some of the solitary big cats, they do not take kindly to their space being invaded."
You may be confusing non-social with anti-social. I'm not making any claims to monitors being anti-social (fighting off any others of their own species) but non-social (they don't seek the company of others of their own species, but if there happen to be others there when they find a resource they tolerate them).
If you want to redefine the word social so that it fits resource sharing as well, then so be it, but the discussion we have been having up until now has been whether or not monitors fit already existing ideas of social behaviour in animals. The discussion has been 'are monitors social?' rather than 'can we redefine the word social to include the behaviours shown by monitors?'.
"I myself I stand with them being more social then solitary. they are not very far removed from the wild, all wild behaviors should be right there at their disposal. If I try to put other solitary animals in the same cage out of the wild they will fight, or stress one another to death. I do not see this happening with my monitors in my cages. Instead they tolerate one another. Are they that strongly in survival mode they will forget the wild ways of being solitary they will put up with one another in a cage, to the point of sharing everything? living breeding within a confined space?"
Most of the people sharing your stance have only ever observed captives, also. If we were talking anti-social behavoiur rather than non-social behaviour, you'd be correct. Every zoo I've been to keeps their bears in pairs and they get along, breed etc., yet if you were to study wild bears they are solitary. If you'd only ever kept bears in a cage you'd find it hard to believe they were solitary, but if you lived out in bear country you'd find that most of the bears you see are on their own.
"I think for us to think we have changed them that much by putting them in a box is naive and much like the past when we thought of ourselves as superior and all the other animals as being dumb creatures."
Not sure where this is coming from. I am not naive, nor do I think other animals are dumb creatures. Social vs non-social isn't a sign of intelligence, as there are many intelligent, solitary species out there and many highly social animals that live on instinct alone, with no reasoning powers (insects). As far as changing an animal by putting it in a box, I've never claimed that was what happens. You've just changed their options.
If putting my two lace monitors together in a box changed no aspect of their behaviour by reducing their options, a study of what wild monitors must be like based on my captives might include the following 'facts':
1. The home range of adult lace monitors is less than 3 metres square
2. Male and female lace monitors bask on top of one another
3. Male and female lace monitors are never more than 3 metres apart
Oddly enough, if I go out in the bush and watch wild lace monitors, they don't seem to follow this pattern. Has being in a box affected my captives? It hasn't physically changed them, but it sure has limited their options.