Giving him a secure home is not "teaching him to be afraid of you."
You have to understand that you should be getting a Uro so you can give the Uro a good life, and you can have the enjoyment of observing his behavior. The uro comes first.
I'll give another example to try to illustrate:
Pretend you were just put into a glass box in someones home. (someone who is about 500 ft taller than you, remember.) How would you feel if you were given one little place to hide, terrified to go eat and venture out because you have no idea if that huge monster out there will eat you or not, and you have no cover to escape to other than that one little hide here, and one other one allllll the way on the other end of the box. Even if that monster never actually tried to eat you, that doesn't mean he never will, and you are taking a risk every single time you go out to eat. Even if you get a tiny bit more confident to come out eventually, playing the odds that this time he won't lunge at you, you will certainly not associate that monster with good things, remembering how terrified you were all that time.
Please remember that you must not touch or pick up your uro for awhile after you first get him. Imagine the above scenario, but this time the monster grabs you a few times. Doesn't eat you, but scared you out of your wits to the point where you just never want to come out of your hide to sit in the sun or eat. After all, in your mind, maybe he WAS going to eat you, but you managed to escape that time. Its been 3 months and I havent touched my mali yet. She's finally letting me close to her - to grab her would shatter 3 months of work.
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Alternately, you could be put into a glass box that has plenty of rocks, caves, logs, nooks and crannies. You are aware theres a monster out there somewhere, but you're pretty confident that you can make it to your food bowl without exposing yourself. If he sees you, you know you can go hide under that other rock over there quickly. Being more confident you are safe, means you are less scared of the monster. After awhile, you'll be living your life, exploring your territory with secure confidence, and will come to realize the monster out there has his own little life going on and doesn't seem interested in you. (after awhile, you may start to notice he's the one who replenishes that food bowl, and will associate him with good things... and may even start to forget he is about 200 times bigger than you are and not be so worried if he decides to come a little closer to the tank each day.)
Do you understand? You can't force someone, person or pet, to trust you. Putting someone in a stressful situation will not make them like or trust you at all. True trust takes time to build, and this time is up to the uro, not you, and it varies from uro to uro. The uro needs to be secure in his home, and satisfy that basic need, before he can start to trust anyone else.
Its not just you, its something all people go through with their pets.
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~ Vamppire
Queens, New York City
