How old is your guy? My guy (2 months) is a bit skittish when I go to reach for him, but once I have him he mellows out. I have pet him on the head (and as Morgana says, he closes his eyes), under his chin and on his belly if I am sure he is comfy and not going to bolt.
I sure know what you mean about our adjusting - at least we are doing it together
! With chams it is beaten into you not to handle unless necessary (unfortunately for Luna, that is sometimes frequent so I really respect her alone time). I find myself really hesitant about holding bd boy and don't hold him for long. I am getting better and take him out 3x/day but only for about 5 minutes or less at a time.
Gee, we can get to know our little fellas together! Got pix yet? I have more, just need to upload one of these days.
lele
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0.1 Veiled - Luna
1.0 Beardie - For now his name is Beardie Boy 
0.2 felines - Kyndra and Líta
1.0 African Clawed Frog - Skipper
0.3 Mad. Hissers (2 died ;(
0.1 Chilean Rose Hair Tarantula (no name yet)
0.1 Goliath Bird-Eater Tarantula - Natasha
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