I also usually probe 3 - 4 on females but about a month ago I ended up getting one that probes 5/5. I'm safely assuming it's a female but we'll know for sure when I try breeding her/him next season. Here is a bit of information you might find helpful that I got from rwoodyer:
Sometimes inexperienced probers can push past the natural stopping point and actually slightly puncture the female homologs of hemipenes. Then the females will probe deeper than expected the next time someone probes them. I usually go by the probe depth as well as visual inspection for vascularization (lots of blood vessels and a general red color) of the base of the hemipenes. Often times you cannot "pop" adults, but you can see the base of the hemipenes or homologs. In females they will be the same pink color as everything else, in males they are typically much darker red as males require the extra blood vessels to fill the hemipenes with blood during copulation. There are always exceptions to this, but it is another good indication of a male over a female. Check this before probing, since you might cause a female to look darker red by the actual probing process.
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