I agree. Darwin is now quite comfortable with being handled and picked up but sometimes I reach for him from above and he gets feaked for a second and will even gape - so I just stroke his head.
He was very skittish in the beginning but I took him out anyway for about 10 minutes 2x/day. I increased the time and he will now hang out on my shoulder or chest while I am working. Sometimes he sits on my hand while I move the mouse around! pretty funny - I guess it is his idea of an amusement ride!
Once you get him out, gently stroke his head - calms hims every time 
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