>>well, Oscar seemed fine when she was hanging out with the new little boy in the living room. so, i took it a step further, and put him in her room and brought her in about 30 mins later. man, she got him...bad. ... i dont know if its b/c he is a male, or b/c he is so much smaller, or b/c she finally has her own room,
It is because the living room was she may have considered relatively neutral territory, but then you put him in HER room. That triggered her attack.
>>when she had free roam over the entire house, she got along with another female her size with no trouble. they even slept together and shared their basking spot.
That may have been because the other female was, right off the bat, subordinate to her, so there was never an issue. Or, they worked it out without you realizing what was going on. Now you've brought a newcomer into the mix, forcing her to act to ensure she's going to maintain her dominant status.
Sleeping together at night isn't necessarily a sign of compatibility. Nighttime sleeping aggregations is the way each individual reduces the chance that he or she will be eaten before dawn. In the wild, there are nocturnal animals who prey on iguanas - by sleeping in groups, it increases individual survival. The same things happen in captivity, with iguanas who sleep together at night scattering as soon as they are warm enough to move out to their usual daytime basking and lounging areas.
That's exactly what happened in my house: The pile of 10-15 bodies at night in the ig room would scatter by 10 AM, leaving only a handful in the ig room, with the rest in the living room, den, and my bedroom. Then there were those who were too stubborn to scatter, insisting on trying to duke it out with those lower or higher in status. Those I had to forcibly segregate, with some being place in the other two bedrooms, where basking and lounging areas had been set up, and one or two compatible igs placed with them for company.
>> ~sigh~ that's so sad that this isnt going to work out the way i had planned.
Which is why it is sooooo important for every keeper of socially dynamic species to recognize that there are never any guarantees of compatibility, and that to bring another individual into the mix means having to deal with the consequences when things don't work out. Unfortunately for the new animals, that too often means that they dumped on a rescue or given to someone who isn't prepared or willing to become prepared to care for them properly.
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Melissa Kaplan
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