>So, if you had a certain coloration or pattern, you would have to breed the snake to a normal, to rule out dominant, then another w/ that trait to determine if it’s a recessive gene? Can you determine co dominance from 1st gen?
You have to breed the shake to a normal to begin the process of determining whether a trait is caused by one or more mutant genes. If the trait is caused by only one mutant gene, then two or more generations are required. If there is only one mutant gene, and that gene is a recessive, then two generations are the minimum. If the mutant gene is a dominant or codominant, then multiple matings and more than two generations are required.
>So desired trait x normal = het…… regardless of dominance?
>So DT x normal = DT babies, then it’s dominant
>And, if DT x normal = all normal, then its codom??
>But DT x DT = definite recessive
No, for all of these four cases.
>The only part I have ever really comprehended was the XY male/female thing, if someone could please help explain it using that as a starting point example, which might help.
I can't even do that. Because the garter snake sex chromosomes are Z (big) and W (small). Males are ZZ, and females are ZW. 
The reason I answered "no" above is because each parent in the cross has two genes. It is the combination of the two genes that determines what the parent individual looks like. And as each parent contributes one of its two gene to each offspring, the babies do not have to all look alike.
Maybe this will help. Take some quarters and pennies. The rules of the dominant/recessive game:
1) you can have two quarters or two pennies or a quarter and a penny in a two coin stack.
2) the quarter is always on top.
3) you can't tell what the bottom coin is.
Results:
If the top coin is a penny, then the bottom coin must also be a penny.
If the top coin is a quarter, then the bottom coin is either a quarter or a penny.
If you have a stack of two quarters, then the stack is homozygous quarter.
If you have a stack of two pennies, then the stack is homozygous penny.
If you have a stack of a quarter and a penny, then the stack is heterozygous quarter/penny.
The quarter is dominant to the penny because it masks the presence of the penny in the heterozygous stack.
The penny is recessive to the quarter because the penny's presence in the heterozygous stack is masked by the quarter.
Take some quarters and pennies. The rules of the codominant game:
1) you can have two quarters or two pennies or a quarter and a penny.
2) you can see both coins rather than just one.
In the dominant/recessive game, the gene for the DT could be the equivalent of the quarter, and the normal gene could be equivalent to the penny. If so, then the gene for the DT is a dominant mutant gene.
Or in the dominant/recessive game, the gene for the DT could be the equivalent of the penny, and the normal gene could be equivalent to the quarter. If so, then the gene for the DT is a recessive mutant gene.
In the codominant game, it doesn't matter which coin is equivalent to the DT and normal genes. Because you can see the effect of both in the stack.
Breeding tests are required to determine whether the genes are playing the dominant/recessive or codominant game.
I'm adding a link to the "Blue Genes" genetics web site. It may be helpful, though it is not perfect.
Paul Hollander
"Blue Genes" genetics web site