I'm curious, did you ever try to hold the cut end of a small piece of waxworm actually touching the tip of her mouth? Sometimes you can get them to lap up a little as soon as they get a tiny taste of it. I don't think you ever answered about drinking water. Does she?
I have also noticed that it's easier to get them to take something when they are hanging on something pointing up (whether it's water or food). See if you can try this with a tiny piece of the fat from inside a wax worm or at least some water from an eye dropper if she's not drinking.
Hey, I'm no expert, I'm just trying to come up with an idea. These things worked for me but evidently mine wasn't in the same condition as yours.
Andy