Here it is in your own words. How am I insecure? It doesn't bother me to post this on here to discuss it. Does it bother you? I was already discussing it with you. I just figured I may as well let others read it too not everyone visits the water monitor section and this topic is more general speaking of all monitors.
"I strongly disagree with anyone who says you should feed your monitor with tongs, etc. The worst--WORST--thing you can do is to allow the monitor to associate your hand/appendage with food. I have seen this happen many times. Put food in the dish at night or when the monitor can't see you."
It's cool you disagree but forcing the issue is a bit sily is it not? We are all entitled to our opinions. I happen to fall back on my experience and I have had no troubles feeding from tongs. My monitros do not associate my hands with food. However if I get the feeder bucket out, tongs out, and walk around they all pirk up. If they then see me with tongs in hand and mouse hanging off the end they are ready to eat and then I would not go sticking my hands in there face. Now does that mean they think of my hand as food? I think not cause without the feeder bucket, tongs food etc. I can reach in with no problems. Unless of course it is just a grumpy monitor to begin with. But again that has nothing to do with it thinking my hand is food.
"If you don't know the danger of allowing your monitor to associate your hand with food, you really have no business owning one. If we're being honest, you sound quite foolish to me. But, you're right--you're entitled to be wrong."
I didn't realize their is a wrong or right way to feed. I never said your way is wrong. To be wrong would have to not work. A monitor will certainly eat from a bowl left in the cage whether it sees you put it in or you hide behind a blanket.
"I used to handle a baby rhino iguana fairly often, and it was quite calm. However, as time passed, it saw my hand put fruit/vegetables into its bowl many times. Eventually, when my hand would approach the top of the cage, it would literally lunge at my hand--mouth wide open. When I managed to pick it up, it would rear it's head back to bite my hand--not out of aggression--out of an inherent desire to eat and eat and eat. I tried washing my hands with different soaps, etc--nothing worked. Call it association, call it whatever you like--that's what happened. Same thing with an Argentine B&W tegu I had--I couldn't even put my hand in the cage. FWIW, I've never experimented with how long it may take for a lizard to "forget" the association (if I had fed him using another more discreet method).
When I was young, I used to hand-feed a small sav. Months later, I had to get rid of it because it literally thought my hand was food, and would never miss an opportunity to nip at it.
I can think of several more examples. But, regardless of whether or not you think lizard's can associate--they can and will. Like I said--it's not out of aggression--it's logical to them."
So it is logical they know you hand has food in it and brings it to them, but it is not logical for them to know the difference between your hand and food, or food and tongs, or food and a bowl?
If you put food in the bowl do they then eat the bowl too? Or if on a paper plate do they eat the plate? A better example yet how about an empty bowl or plate? Do they bite them thinking it has food in it if no food is present?
I will give them more credit then that and say they can tell the difference between them. I certainly will not change the way I feed my animals. I do not expect you to change your methods. That is not why I posted this. I simply wanted to see what others thought and what they concluded too. This is a discussion board. Maybe you did not want to discuss this and just wanted to be right?