I'm sorry nobody's posted back. I think sometimes we read posts about breeding iguanas, and simply shut them out because it's such a controversial subject. The old "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
It's not right, because you're looking for help, and we don't really know all of your situation. It's not welcoming to give no answer at all to someone who obviously cares about his igs. I'm sorry. It's really embarrassing to see no responses to your posts.
The three top answers I've seen given to all sorts of questions on this forum are, "Don't breed iguanas", "Don't buy iguanas", or "Go to the vet", and as you can see, two of those three apply to you. We've seen all that advice ignored so many times. If you look at the picture of the iguana farm a few posts above us, you'll maybe get a feeling of why nobody wants to respond about iguana breeding, even by people who are probably caring and responsible herpers.
You're doing the responsible thing by not incubating the eggs, but I know lots of people feel ill even thinking about that subject. I do. The general feeling is that allowing iguanas to breed is not the solution for the breeding season blues. We all go through horrors with our igs. I have a male just coming into maturity. He's a little terror at mating season.
Egg laying is a perilous time for females. If your male gets wild again next year, will you do the same thing? Not many people will understand your difficult decision to breed him, because it seems like you are trading the health of your female for the agreeableness of your male.
I would suggest getting your female to a vet. That is the one and only way to tell whether she's layed all of her eggs.
Did your male calm down and stop hurting himself after breeding? I hope your female is okay and lays all her eggs. I hope you'll let us know how everything turns out.
-Erin