My Tokay does not mind to be held but is not that friendly my advice would be to hold her and pet her with gloves on and let her roam around you...but do not let her get near your face or any where where she can do real damage. it is to big of a chance my cousin just got his hand gashed and needed to get 4 stitches. tokays are like pit bulls they can be mean and can be nice but unless you are totally ok with it getting that personal with you then don't take the chance.
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