personally, i don't agree with just grabbing them unless absolutely necessary. with all most of my monitors i've had success with just time and patience. usually i leave the monitor alone for the first week with going into their enclosure as little as possible (change the water, feeding, etc.). after that, i try and go into their enclosure more and try and coax them onto my hand with food that i feed them from tongs. after a week or so, when they're more settled in and comfortable with me being around i'll sit level with them with my hand on the other side of the tank/a decent distance from them so that i'm not intruding in their "safe zone" and just wait. eventually, they'll get curious enough to come check you out. i NEVER grab my monitors just to be able to hold them. i'd rather build a trust than force it. it makes the experience of owning them much more rewarding