First - wow, the vet sounds great.



It sounds like you've given this a lot of serious consideration. What does your vet think? It sounds as if they are getting along better now. Obviously, Hazel is a pushy, jealous, but loving kitty. Do you think it would help if you put her up for a bit during the day to give Ben private time with you all to himself? She's right at the peak of that kitten energy age when she's nearly a full-grown cat, but still has the kitten crazies. Do you think part of the problem is that she still has too much 'play drive' for Ben to be comfortable with?



I have six cats, seven total in my tiny house, and some of them are pushier about my attention than others. I find that the ones that 'back off' from me when others push them away do find their way to me later for their 'lovins' while the others are off snoozing or otherwise occupied. Perhaps Hazel doesn't have enough to keep her distracted from Ben?



It seems they all mine have their special areas of the house where they feel the most confident. I have two that hang out mostly in the bedroom and always expect me to take time for them when I'm in there, one that's my kitchen table cat, who asks for pets while she's on the table, and with the other three, my ultra-confident ones, it's wherever, whenever. I didn't really think about it until I was pondering your situation, but they almost never demand my attention unless they are in their favorite spots.



Anyway, just throwing some thoughts out there.

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