The one thing that I can tell you is that his wife will need all the support that she can get just in just handling the "caregiver" role, and, if the kids try to talk them into moving, then they also need to be prepared to assume a whole lot of responsibility as well. I took care of Mom for over six years in dealing with her cancer. I only had my husband and my children for support(who did not live close by) - I had no brothers or sisters and my Dad died many years prior. Mom tried to hang on at home because that was where she wanted to stay and die. Unforunately for the last two months that was not the case and I had to really get firm to make her come here - actually I did not ask her anymore I just went and got her and physically put her in my car. There comes a time when you have to be brave enough to stand up and do what you know best, regardless of what someone wants, and not feel guilty because you cannot follow the wishes of the one that is sick. Just from your comments, I see hard times ahead for the both of them. They will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Boris's Human, Pam

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