Thanks for the input - I needed outsider's opinions who had no stakes in the matter.



There seems to be an unwritten rule of negotiation among the distant cousins who are finding one another online in genealogy boards when it comes to trading info - so far only one person has been out of line and it was me - but even they have given me a few surprises. One person ran down a list of who had heart attacks unasked, but things got strange when I asked about religion 100+ years ago. Is it really that shameful to admit a few dead Lutherans in the family?



I've got a military record on order that may be a bomb shell, and I have to admit I'm nervous. The man may have never of talked himself, but plenty of others have, creating a mythology that's too impressive to be true. The distant cousins don't know, don't care, the family around the Thanksgiving table will.



I've got a few things to think about.



Thanks again!

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